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Resumen ejecutivo de la Red Pill — COMPLETISIMO

Introducción

¿Qué es la Red Pill?

Este artículo explica por qué estamos acá y cuál es el foco de nuestra misión. En resumen lo que dice es que estamos acá para ayudarnos mutuamente con conocimientos y consejos y así mejorar nuestra ventaja:

Glosario y terminología

Varios de los términos que usamos en este lugar están explicados, aunque sea brevemente en ese artículo.


Lectura sobre los orígenes

Las siguientes entradas proveen el contexto y los orígenes sobre las razones por las que existe la Red Pill y a traves de los años ayudaron a moldear el foco de nuestra misión.

Los hombres no están contentos.
La burbuja de la misandria
La historia de Miguel
Confesiones de un perdedor reformado
El Hombre manipulado
El Sexo Polígamo


Lectura Teórica

Una vez que pudiste digerir el material anterior, seguí con la teoría. Cada sección se separa en fases para ayudarte a entender y reforzar los conceptos centrales y las filosofías que LRP adopta.

Fase 1: Las diferencias fundamentales sobre cómo aman el hombre y la mujer.

Mujeres enamoradas  y Hombres enamorados
Estos artículos contrastan de muy buena manera las diferencias de cómo expresan el romance los hombres y las mujeres. Sabemos que, al contrario de la creencia popular, son los hombres los verdaderos románticos de la sociedad. Un artículo que los sigue es Sobre el Amor y la Guerra, que se puede resumir con la frase «el concepto de amor de las mujeres no es el que les hacen creer a los hombres».

Programas de apareamiento
Cualquiera que esté familiarizado con los ciclos mensuales femeninos sabe muy bien que las preferencias de las mujeres cambian. Así también lo hacen sus deseos y atraccion hacia los hombres masculinos y afeminados. Lo principal es que durante la ovulación las mujeres muestran mas piel y tienden a preferir hombres mas dominantes y trazas «alfa».

Dos tipos de amor principales
Un tanteo superficial sobre el control del Relato. Rollo Tomassi se expandió mucho mas sobre el tema en su blog «El Hombre Racional».

Fase 2: El enfoque pluralista y mercenario de las mujeres a las relaciones.

Ley de Briffault
Un concepto central, con algunos corolarios que describe como las mujeres no expresan lealtad a los hombres beta por el cuidado, provisionamiento entregado previamente por el hombre-

Sobre el Valor y el Valor de las Mujeres
El valor que tanto hombres como mujeres aportan es diferente. El valor de las mujeres viene de ser mientras que el valor de los hombres viene de hacer. Para que una mujer pueda tener sexo, solo tiene que aparecer para que los hombres se le tiren. Para un hombre, tiene que bailar al ritmo de ella y ser de un alto estatus y esto y aquello y lo otro. Los hombres buscan sexo de las mujeres, y no al revés. Al contrario, las mujeres seleccionan que hombre de la multitud que la busca será con el que tendrá sexo.

Hipergamia 01: Las mujeres ven a los hombres como los hombres ven a los trabajos.

Hipergamia 02: Su percepción y contexto son TODO

Fase 3: Liberando a tu mente de la programación social «blue pill»

Powertalk 101

Este es un muy buen resumen de las piruetas mentales y jugadas de poder utilizadas en el lenguaje y sobre cómo las mujeres utilizan subterfugio para engañar a los hombres que no están al tanto del subtexto utilizado.

El manifiesto de la Red Pill y esta Compilación de Videos Red Pill

Expandimos un poco los conceptos encontrados en el Glosario de Terminos.

La Estrategia Sexual es Amoral

La seduccion y la estrategia sexual no tiene un valor moral intrinseco por si mismo; todo depende de como lo uses.

Fase 4: Entendiendo el poder, organización, y la tirania de las mujeres.

La utopía sexual al poder.

Este articulo discute la forma en la que el matrimonio y la monogamia restringe la hipergamia femenina para beneficiar a la civilización. Para aquellos que no estan familiarizados con la historia, Henry IV dijo, «No quiero que haya ningun campesino en mi reino que sea tan pobre que no tenga pollo en su guiso de los Domingos».  El ex presidente Hoover usó la misma linea de razonamiento en su campaña presidencial. El matrimonio y la monogamia y las convenciones sociales limitan a las mujeres a un solo compañero, le sirvio para proveer al hombre del equivalente sexual de «un pollo cada Domingo». Hacer eso fue bueno porque sirvió como incentivo  lo que llevó a los hombres a crear la civilización como la conocemos

En cuanto se forman harems para los hombres de elite y quedan grandes grupos de hombres sin acceso sexual, termina sucediendo una revuelta social.

La razón oculta por la que las mujeres “odian” a los hombres

La Internet le dio cabida a un nuevo tipo de grupo de apoyo masculino… o club de hombres, donde los hombres pueden comparan experiencias y ver si una mujer los esta cagando o no. Esto le quita a las mujeres un poder que venian disfruranto y se lo da a los hombres. En muchos casos para esos hombres tener ese poder es algo que les sucede por primera vez en su vida. A escala social las mujeres sienten este cambio como una amenaza y es por eso que nos atacan y pelean como una forma de volver a poner al genio en la botella.

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Women: The Most Responsible Teenager In The House
There thread has created a lot of butthurt since it was made, but the theories in which it espouses are sound, particularly in dealing with women’s shit testing in long term relationships (LTR), the roles men and women are naturally predisposed to, and the establishment and enforcement of boundaries. This is the article that the thread is in response to.

Applying Red Pill Concepts To Your Daily Lives

48 Day of Power Supethread
48 Laws of Power from a Red Pill perspective.

All-in-One Legal Compilation Guide For Men
An unfortunately necessity in this day and age.

All-in-One Red Pill 101
This thread is a great primer of the Game aspect of TRP as described in the Introduction above. It also expands upon the core concepts found in the Glossary and Terms.

Feminist Shaming Tactics and What You Can’t Say
It’s important to familiarize yourself with the logical fallacies and bad faith arguments feminists use when discussing gender issues online and in the media, and how the media is controlled/constrained by those in power to service the feminine imperative. Note: The essay is linked in the What You Can’t Say thread, and is not the thread itself.

Goals
A how-to guide for creating goals and staying on track.

LTR Checklist and Unicorn Hunting
A great list of red (and green) flags to help you ascertain if a woman is worthy of your commitment.

Self-Acceptance
Life is short so make it a good one. And don’t sweat the small stuff.

Shit Tests 101
Comprehensive introduction to shit tests.

Shit Tests 201
In effect this was a follow-up to the above thread on Shit Tests.

The Red Pill Interacting With Other Subreddits
This thread offers some practical advice for dealing with other subreddits that are vehemently «blue pull» and their alternatives.

(Enlace al original en Ingles)

Mujeres – La adolescente mas responsable de la casa

Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House?
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***Foreword*** This piece is directly related to the previous two articles titled «You’re Such a Tool!» and «Rites of Passage – Making Boys into Men». To fully understand the significance of the following concepts, those articles must be taken into account. (While this article can stand alone, it is also the «climax» of a three part series – which is part of a chapter of a book. There’s much more context to this article than what appears here by itself).
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At first it may seem like an assault against your good senses to think of adult women as mere children or teenagers. How could they be? They go through life and mature just like men do, don’t they? Once they are thirty or forty, don’t they behave as adults just as thirty or forty year old men do? Actually, there is much evidence to the contrary. Perhaps men are so keen to believe that women mature the same as them (throughout their entire lives) because in the early stages of our lives, females do actually mature faster than males.

”The nobler and more perfect a thing is, the later and slower is it in reaching maturity. Man reaches the maturity of his reasoning and mental faculties scarcely before he is eight and twenty; woman when she is eighteen; but hers is a reason of very narrow limitations. This is why women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling things to the most important.” — Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women (1851)

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The reason why females mature faster than men is not some particular triumph for them, despite how women seem to enjoy throwing this little tidbit of information around. As I described in my piece «You’re Such a Tool», what it really has to do with is women being the biological bearers and caretakers of children. They mature faster than males because once they become fertile after puberty, they must also have the mental capacity to care for the children they might bear. Nowhere in nature is there a female organism that is capable of giving birth to offspring which is not also developed enough yet to care for the offspring. This not only manifests itself in hips capable of giving birth and breasts able to produce milk, but also in a mental maturation that enables them to provide basic childcare. You will notice as well, even in our present society, it is when girls reach around the age of twelve that they begin taking up babysitting and it is around puberty when adults begin entrusting young girls to care for infants alone. This merely coincides with female biology, as it is also at that age when girls become physically capable of bearing children, and their mental maturity matches their biological maturity.

The difference between men and women in maturity, however, is that while females mature earlier in life, they also stop maturing at around the age of eighteen, as Schopenhauer aptly observes. And while men don’t catch up to women’s maturity until they reach around age twenty-eight, after that the men keep maturing – often throughout their entire lives. William James describes the same process of maturation in Principles of Psychology, where he states:

«We observe an identical difference between men as a whole and women as a whole. A young woman of twenty reacts with intuitive promptitude and security in all the usual circumstances in which she may be placed. Her likes and dislikes are formed; her opinions, to a great extent, the same that they will be through life. Her character is, in fact, finished in its essentials. How inferior to her is a boy of twenty in all these respects! His character is still gelatinous, uncertain what shape to assume, «trying it on» in every direction. Feeling his power, yet ignorant of the manner in which he shall express it, he is, when compared with his sister, a being of no definite contour. But this absence of prompt tendency in his brain to set into particular modes is the very condition which insures that it shall ultimately become so much more efficient than the woman’s. The very lack of preappointed trains of thought is the ground on which general principles and heads of classification grow up; and the masculine brain deals with new and complex matter indirectly by means of these, in a manner which the feminine method of direct intuition, admirably and rapidly as it performs within its limits, can vainly hope to cope with.» — William James, Principles of Psychology
Balvenie 50 Year Old Single Malt Scotch
It becomes like comparing three-month fermented wine served in a box of Chateau Cardboard to single malt scotch aged for decades in an oak cask. As such, women do mature faster than males but stop maturing at around the mentality of an eighteen year old (or also, I suppose, to the maturity of a 28 year old man), leaving the woman as literally, the most responsible teenager in the house.

It is interesting to note as well how many men claim that it is at around age 27 or 28 that they begin to “figure things out” in regard to women, or at least much more so than they did earlier in life.

”Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, and foolish, and shortsighted – in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strictest sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best of intentions, could do in her place.” — Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women (1851)

The reason why women stop maturing at around the age of eighteen also has to do with their biological destiny as child-bearers and caretakers of children. As Schopenhauer notes, women can toy and coo with a child all day long and seemingly enjoy themselves, while what could a man do in their place? Women, as they are wont to brag to us, are also more “emotionally tuned-in” than men are. Women’s emotional proclivities are directly related to her childrearing duties which biology has assigned to her. Babies, for example, communicate solely through emotion and even as children grow into toddlers and then children that communicate with words and language, a lot of their communication is still through emotion, and so women are at an intermediate stage of development between that of a child and an adult man, or in other words, they are teenagers.

Furthermore, in regard to women’s emotional state, it ought to be noted that one cannot be emotional and rational at the same time, so it is not that females are both more emotionally in-tune while remaining rationally above it all. Just the opposite is true. The more you “emote,” the less you “think.” Take someone suffering from road-rage, for example. The emotions of anger so cloud the driver’s brain that he can even unthinkingly commit acts of violence, only to deeply regret it later when his emotions have subsided. As women are generally in a much more emotional state of mind than men, so do they not use reason and rationality to guide themselves as much as men do.

***NOTE: In regard to these concepts, there’s an addition to this article at the bottom of this page.***
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What’s Mine is Mine and What’s Yours is Ours
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What husband doesn’t come to understand this is the true nature of marriage after a time? But ultimately, is this not merely the same attitude that teenagers take within the family?

Think about how a teenager refers to the family sedan, which the parents paid for, as our car. But the i-pod which he purchased with money he earned part-time at McDonald’s is his i-pod. Is not the teenager’s/child’s default that his parent’s possessions are “ours” while those possessions he purchased with money he earned himself are “his,” and his alone? This directly mimics even my own parent’s marriage, where my father worked his entire lifetime to pay the bills for the family and put a roof over our heads, but when the kids were off to school and my mom took up working, the money she earned doing so was “her money.” It did not go into the family pot as my father’s income did, but became her own “special money” in almost the same way that a child’s allowance or earnings are “his money.”

(Right Now I Feel Like)…

Perhaps you have heard the old saying, “It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind…” This is something we usually write off as a cute quirk of female behaviour (even though it often causes untold damage to others), but think for a moment how this resembles the behaviour of children & teenagers. Ask a child what they want to be when they grow up and they will tell you “a fireman,” then ask them a week later and they will say “an astronaut.” Young people will do this right through high-school and on into university where they almost assuredly will change their major at least once, not to mention that after getting their degree, the odds are there will be more changes in their plans once again.

If I were a parent who had a teenager that told me they wanted to be a doctor in the future, I would do well to insert the phrase “Right now I feel like (I want to be a doctor),” in front of every choice the teenager has claimed they made. Certainly, I wouldn’t 100% take them at their word and start depleting my resources in an attempt to help them become a doctor, because in a month or two, the teen will tell me they no longer want to be a doctor but have decided on the career path of Famous Rock Star instead.
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One of the sad facts of entering adulthood is that you are forced to make choices which you must stick to in order to be successful in your ventures. The person who decides early to stick to a career as an auto-mechanic will likely be much more successful in life than his peer who spends age 18 to 24 pursuing a career as psychologist, then quits and spends another 6 years attempting a career as an electrician, only to quit again to gain qualification as an accountant. Part of “adulthood” is about making choices that you stick to for the long term, so that those ventures have enough time to bear fruit. Those who change their minds too often rarely harvest the fruits of their labour. In other words, making a choice to go in one direction often closes the door to other choices. We allow children the latitude to change their minds as they grow-up, but after a time we start to insist they make a choice and stick to it.
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Women as well change their minds like teenagers do. Sure, she might decide that (right now she feels like) she wants to be a doctor, but as evidence has shown in the medical profession, most women who train to be doctors spend less than a decade working full-time in said profession before quitting and deciding that (right now she feels like) she wants to be a mother. Afterwards, most of these women decide that (right now she feels like) she only wants to work as a part-time doctor. Of course, as time goes on, she has less and less experience than the male doctor who never “took a break” to explore other choices life had to offer and he quickly outpaces her in that field, even without the Patriarchy conspiring behind the scenes to hold her back.
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When a woman tells you she will love you forever, insert the phrase (Right now I feel like) before it, so you get the proper translation into Womanese: “(Right now I feel like) I will love you forever. All evidence shows that this should include vows made at the altar as well, since the vast majority of divorces are initiated by women rather than men.
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Q: “Do you take this man as your lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold until death do you part?”
A: “(Right now I feel like) I do!”
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Sure women stick to their choices better than children do, but they don’t do it as well as men do either. In other words, women’s behaviour exists somewhere in between the child and the man… kinda like a teenager.
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Women’s Fitness-Tests are Similar to the Boundaries Which Children Seek

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Anyone who has raised children knows that children seek boundaries and are happiest when they find such boundaries exist and understand there are consequences when they cross them. A child who does not have boundaries set by his parents will in the short term get his way, but will ultimately come to resent everything around him and become miserable.

Women are not much different. They will instinctively fitness-test a man with all kinds of irrational and basically abusive behaviour, to test the steel content of his balls by his ability to pass such tests and not put up with her crap. If the man passes her tests, she calms down and is content to live within the boundaries of behaviour which he sets for her. Once she knows there are boundaries and her man is willing to enforce them, she knows that her man is a capable provider and protector and she can relax and feel confident following his lead.

The behaviour of children seeking boundaries set for them by their parents and the fitness-testing behaviour of women with their lovers is remarkably similar.

(Related Study Illustrating that Women Crave Boundaries)

Men Love Women, Women Love Children, and Children Love Puppies

There is an “order” to how love works and the order works only in one direction. You can see hints to this in the Bible, where husbands are commanded to love their wives while wives are commanded to “honour” their husbands in return. Children as well are commanded to honour their parents. Love is a hierarchal beast that descends downward. The only way it works in reverse is via honour and respect, because the reciprocal “love” is never equal.

A child will never love its parents in the same fashion that parents will love their child. You will readily see parents willing to sacrifice for their children – sometimes with their very lives – but rarely will you see the same in reverse. In fact, even in society as a whole, we consider it to be “the right thing” when a father or a mother sacrifices their life in order to save the life of their child. The whole of raising children to adulthood involves enormous sacrifice on the part of the parents in the form of time, frustration, freely giving resources, the denial of the parent’s dreams, and so forth. It is never returned to the parents on an equal basis, not even when the child reaches adulthood, for by that time the child will likely have children of his own to whom he bestows most of his love upon. Although having children is a one-way-street of parents sacrificing for the betterment of their child, they are still instinctively compelled to do so even though, rationally speaking, it is not in the best interests of the parents. What parents can expect in return is that their children honour them and respect them for their sacrifices – but their love will never equal that which their parents have for them. It is just not part of the natural order of life.

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In the same way, a woman’s love for a man will never be equal to a man’s love for a woman. The natural order and a woman’s hypergamous nature dictate that the man must be on a “higher level” than the woman. A man can love a woman just as a woman can love a child, but the reciprocal love is returned only in the form of honour and respect. Just as a child instinctively expects its parents to take care of them, so does a woman instinctively expect her man to take care of her. It is a one-way street. A woman will never be able to equally return a man’s love for her. At best, she can honour and respect him for what he does for her.

In fact, in the form of romantic love, you will find that women are not so much in love with the man as an individual person, but rather they are in love with the relationship. The man is merely a role-player and is easily replaced by another taking on the role. If any man expects to be an “equal partner” with his wife, he will soon find his woman disrespecting him and seeking out a man who is decidedly not her equal to lead her.

They are the sexus sequior, the second sex in every respect, therefore their weaknesses should be spared, but to treat women with extreme reverence is ridiculous, and lowers us in their own eyes. When nature divided the human race into two parts, she did not cut it exactly through the middle! The difference between the positive and negative poles, according to polarity, is not merely qualitative but also quantitative. And it was in this light that the ancients and people of the East regarded woman; they recognised her true position better than we, with our old French ideas of gallantry and absurd veneration, that highest product of Christian-Teutonic stupidity. These ideas have only served to make them arrogant and imperious, to such an extent as to remind one at times of the holy apes in Benares, who, in the consciousness of their holiness and inviolability, think they can do anything and everything they please. — Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women (1851)

You cannot expect a woman to be your true confidant, your soul-mate, and your respite to lean upon during the stormy times in life. That is your role for her benefit. It does not work in reverse, for as soon as you believe it can work that way, she will lose confidence in your ability to lead her and begin to resent you. She will go about illustrating her resentment by making your life as miserable as she possibly can. This may be one of the hardest lessons for a man to learn in life because it turns the whole notion of modern love as an equal give-and-take relationship upon its ear. The implications can be rather depressing, as it means that on a certain level a man will always be alone. A parent who expects their child to also be their equal friend to lean upon for support, will also find himself sorely disappointed with the results. The child instinctively expects the parents to be superior and to cater to his needs. Expecting the reverse will only result in a resentful child and a heartbroken parent. The same order must be maintained between a man and a woman, lest she become resentful and seek out a man who actually will lead her.

The Terrible Twos

”If one looks around at today’s culture and takes note of all the destructive effects of the female attitude of entitlement, then went on to devise social controls which would prevent such destructive effects in the future, I think you would end up with social values very much like the ones currently labeled «patriarchal.»

Rather than viewing feminism as «conditioning» women to behave in completely self-centered ways, I see it more as a case of feminism regarding the socialization process which countered the natural tendency of all organisms toward selfishness – as «oppression.»

Every parent who has had daily involvement in raising a child is familiar with the stage called «the terrible twos.» This is the stage during which the naturally selfish infant is forced to come to terms with the fact that their desires will not always be met and their will won’t always prevail. I have no doubt that if the child were able to express what it knows in its «special infantile way of knowing», that it would consider the imposition of external values on it to be «oppression.»

The vast majority of women I have met have seemed to be stuck emotionally at about age two. Any frustration of their desires would result in a tantrum. In many cases these were more subtle than throwing herself on the floor and thrashing around, but it was a tantrum nonetheless. So, rather than saying that feminism «conditioned» women to behave in an immature, selfish, and totally self-centered fashion, I would describe it as feminism destroying the social value system and the process of conditioning women out of their infantile and narcissistic world view.” — The Wisdom of Zenpriest

Your Bratty Little Sister

”… Women, then, are only children of a larger growth; … A man of sense only trifles with them, plays with them, humors and flatters them, as he does with a sprightly forward child; but he neither consults them about, nor trusts them with serious matters; though he often makes them believe that he does both; which is the thing in the world they are most proud of; for they love mightily to be dabbling in business (which by the way they always spoil); and being justly distrustful that men in general look upon them in a trifling light, they almost adore that man who talks more seriously to them, and who seems to consult and trust them; I say, who seems; for weak men really do, but wise ones only seem to do it. …» — Lord Chesterfield, Letter to His Son (1748)
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In the sense of seduction, a man is well advised to treat a woman as if she were his bratty little sister:
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”…The more you patronizingly treat women like bratty kid sisters, the more their vaj takes over their critical thinking skills. It all harkens back to the one fundamental principle guiding male-female relations: Chicks love submitting to powerful men. And what is a bigger demonstration of male sexual power than believing that a woman is so far beneath you that she is the equivalent of a child, hardly deserving of a serious answer or an emotional investment?

So what does “everything she does is cute” mean in practice? It means not getting riled up when she tests you. It means not explaining yourself when she stamps her wee feet and wags a finger at you. It means never acting apologetic when she’s upset with some mysterious infraction you’ve committed. Keep in mind that when a woman gets upset, at least half the time she’s not really upset with whatever misdemeanor she’s accusing you of; she’s just upset that your behavior caused a temporary reversal of gina tingle induction.

The “everything she does is cute” game tactic is defined more precisely as an inner game refinement. When you start thinking of women as adorable brats who know not what they do, you start treating them in ways consistent with your beliefs. With enough reprogramming in the right direction (i.e. kicking the supports out from under her pedestal), soon the words coming out of your mouth will be effortless verbal expressions of what you actually feel. And therein lies the secret to being a natural — naturals truly believe the charmingly jerkoff things they say to women.” — Chateau Heartiste
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(Also see «Lesson Thirteen: Charm is Treating Women Like Little Girls» — The Book of Pook)
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Conclusion

Despite what most relationship “experts” try to tell you, the key to a successful relationship is not about open, honest communication.

It is true, there must be a form of “mutual respect,” but the respect cannot be equal in all ways. A parent can respect a child and respect the child’s needs, but for a parent to treat the child as an equal would be a grave mistake. In a similar way, a man can respect a woman, but if he deems to treat her as his equal, she will soon come to resent him and leave to seek a man who actually portrays himself as superior – as a leader – to her. She seeks this instinctively. She is like water seeking a strong man to act as the container which will shape her «truths.» In the realm of seduction, a woman also seeks out a man who is able to behave in a superior fashion to her, so even if you are not yet convinced that women are as mere children but only of a larger growth, you would be well advised to treat her as one if only from the standpoint of keeping her romantically interested in you.

When a man marries a woman, he doubles his duties while halving his rights. This was true even in the days of Marriage 1.0. It is a large responsibility involving much effort to take on a wife, just as it is for one to take on raising children. You cannot expect children, or women, to fulfill your needs for emotional intimacy nor to be “someone to lean on” during times of strife. Just the opposite, for that is your duty as a parent and also as a husband.

Most of our modern laws, and nearly all of the “experts” in the social sciences, have done everything they possibly can to undermine a man’s ability to properly “husband” his wife. The current state of affairs completely upsets the natural hierarchy between man and woman. In the same way that it would be nearly impossible for parents to properly raise children if the government passed a plethora of laws deconstructing parent’s natural roles and restricting them from setting boundaries for children, so it is increasingly difficult for a man to properly fulfill his leadership role that women instinctively seek and need. When children have legal authority over their parents, chaos will ensue, just as in Marriage 2.0 where women hold supremacy over the husbands, the practice of matrimony will only harm and bring resentment to all parties involved, making one ill-advised to seek such an arrangement in life.

“Feminism starts out being very simple. It starts out being the instinct of a little child who says ‘it’s not fair’ and ‘you are not the boss of me,’ and it ends up being a worldview that questions hierarchy altogether.” — Gloria Steinem, in the two hour HBO special on the life of Gloria Steinem entitled, «Gloria: In Her Own Words.»
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***An addition to this article*** I kind of get a kick watching this article get linked to on Reddit. It causes quite a bit of controversy and has a lot of people pretty angry, especially women. Some of their arguments are pretty silly though. The most glaring one is people calling what Schopenhauer says as «science from the 1850’s.» Umm, Schopenhauer is a philosopher, not a scientist. Learn the difference.
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Your Friendly, Neighbourhood Social Justice Warrior!
Also, there is one ridiculous person in there (who goes to every reddit around to repeatedly complain about this article – for over a year now!) who continually points out that I linked to Angry Harry, «who is just another blogger like me,» and points out that AH’s «source» for «the more you emote, the less you think» is the Daily Mail. She does not point out, however, that the Daily Mail’s article she is referring to is cited by «peer reviewed research,» done by a feminist, no less, and Angry Harry merely read the research and translated what she said. Furthermore, Angry Harry has multiple degrees, a Ph D. in Psychology and the others I believe are related to childhood education – making him extremely qualified to critique the research and comment on what it means. Angry Harry often has written about how the school system has been rejigged to favour girls over boys, and it is his area of expertise to note the different brain functions of the sexes.
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Further, you will quickly see how angry women get about this discussion, but not men – except for the mangina’s and white knights trying curry favour and approval from anonymous females on the internet with whom they have absolutely no chance of getting sex from – yet they still feel compelled to grovel like servile worms in front of them. My goodness, I half expect that if women gave those men a dull, rusty pocketknife, they would castrate themselves to gain the ladies’ approval. But, to note, I have not yet seen one single man get angry that this
article blatantly suggests men are more immature than women from pretty much the age of 12 to 28. (It also says males are valued less than females in society). I mean, no teenage boy nor man in his twenties takes any offense whatsoever to the suggestion that they are not as mature as their female peers, yet women and their enablers are having virtual heart-attacks over the suggestion that men may have some kind of advantage over females – somewhere.

“Men are not troubled to hear a man dispraised, because they know, though he be naught, there’s worth in others; but women are mightily troubled to hear any of them spoken against, as if the sex itself were guilty of some unworthiness.” – John Seldon (1584-1654)

And, to note, it is virtually accepted scientifically that girls do, indeed, mature faster than boys, both physically and mentally. (Which already proves the male and female brain are not the same). Physically, for example, in puberty girls mature faster than boys in such things as height. But as we all know, while boys start their growth spurt later than girls, boys grow to be significantly taller than girls. Furthermore, males also do not fully fill-out muscularly until they reach their late twenties. However, an 18 year old female is pretty much at her peak of physical development at that age, and by her late twenties is beginning to decline.
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As such, those who are angry at this article are, on the one hand, acknowledging the superiority of women (they mature faster than boys) but then complaining – screeching like children actually – that there is some advantage which males will gain later in life. In other words, they are trying to show the superiority of the female brain, not its equality. If a female brain matures faster than a male’s, and also, ends up having no disadvantages but only (at the minimum) equality with the male brain thereafter, then it is quite obvious that they are claiming the female brain is superior to the male brain, because if it matures faster, and is also in every way just as capable, then it is superior because it only has advantages, but not corresponding disadvantages. This reminds me of a verse from Angry Harry’s marvelous poem, If I Only Had a V:

If I only had a V
I would use it expertly
To generate equality
That somehow always favours me

Boy, I wonder how loud the childish squealing would get if I pointed out other philosophers and writers from the past who argued things such as women’s height being between that of a child and a man, or that their facial features and skin are intermediate between a child’s and a man’s…
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As someone who grew up through the brunt of feminism’s sickness in the 1970’s, 80’s and 90’s, I cannot begin to tell you how many times I have heard of the superiority of the female brain’s multi-tasking abilities. «Nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah,» the females taunted, from teenagers to old women to fat orca’s with TV talk shows. (They are still doing it today in their «A Woman’s Nation» and «End of Men» articles). Never once has it been acceptable to point out that men’s linear thinking brain is the one that is capable of intense and deep concentration, precisely because it does not multi-task, and thus why virtually all of the world’s inventions with more than two moving parts have come from the hands of men, plus the majority of great musicians, artists, philosophers and so on. Women’s multi-tasking brains are like the phrase «a jack of all trades, but master of none.» It helps them do other tasks while also tending to children. (Most women spent the majority of their entire adult lives either pregnant or caring for their children until very recently in human history). For every advantage there is a disadvantage. For every cloud, there is a silver lining. A Ferrari would be a scream for Sunday afternoon drives, but when Monday morning comes around and you need to Shut Up and Shovel the Fuckin’ Gravel, you’d probably rather have an old pick-up truck.
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http://no-maam.blogspot.ca/2005/03/eotm-secret-of-life-shut-up-and-shovel.html
Click the correct vehicle to use for «The Secret to Life: Shut Up and Shovel the Fuckin’ Gravel!» — by Zenpriest
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The Hard-Wired Difference Between Male and Female Brains Could Explain Why Men Are Better At Map Reading – Researchers found that many of the connections in a typical male brain run between the front and the back of the same side of the brain, whereas in women the connections are more likely to run from side to side between the left and right hemispheres of the brain. This difference in the way the nerve connections in the brain are “hardwired” occurs during adolescence when many of the secondary sexual characteristics such as facial hair in men and breasts in women develop under the influence of sex hormones, the study found. The researchers believe the physical differences between the two sexes in the way the brain is hardwired could play an important role in understanding why men are in general better at spatial tasks involving muscle control while women are better at verbal tasks involving memory and intuition.

… Because the female connections link the left hemisphere, which is associated with logical thinking, with the right, which is linked with intuition, this could help to explain why women tend to do better than men at intuitive tasks, she added. “Intuition is thinking without thinking. It’s what people call gut feelings. Women tend to be better than men at these kinds of skill which are linked with being good mothers,” Professor Verma said.

(Note that male brains run front to back, thus not crossing logic with emotion as with women).

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Indicadores Beta

TRP poster, needathrowawayplease from the Red Pill subreddit has a timely question / observation:

Knowing your SO’s menstrual cycle can be extremely powerful. [Indeed]

During the fertile stage of her cycle, thousands of years of evolution mean her body is screaming at her to get knocked up by an alpha male. A simple test to determine is she sees you as her alpha fucks is to not initiate during the fertile period of her cycle and observe her behavior: does she come to you to get fucked? Does her body language or physical behavior change when she’s fertile. Maybe she touches you more often or more intimately or plays the role of the seductress: things like coming to bed wearing lingerie where she usually wouldn’t? Even if she’s relatively low-sex drive and doesn’t initiate, does she at least respond more passionately to your sexual advances or orgasm more easily or intensely when she’s fertile?

You obviously can’t draw conclusions from a single cycle but you should eventually see a pattern – and the more she values you sexually during her fertile period the better. If she isn’t doing anything differently or reacting to you differently when she’s fertile, something’s up.

This test can have false negatives but not false positives. There’s no false positive case where she suddenly starts riding you while you’re watching the Packers game but she doesn’t see you as her alpha. But it can have false negatives where she doesn’t initiate but still sees you as her alpha. If she isn’t initiating when she’s fertile (and you aren’t initiating in order to test her reaction), it could be due to stress, lack of time, being too used to you doing the initiation, etc. But at the very least she should be demonstrating increased passion and sexual ecstasy during her fertile period.

At a high-level:

The best case: She initiates during her fertile period if you don’t. She gets cravings for your D.

The OK case: She responds more passionately and orgasms more easily during her fertile period.

The uh-oh, something might be wrong case: No observable change during her fertile period.

The beta case: Dead bedroom, what the fuck are you even doing (sorry if you got married and you can’t get out).

Of course if she’s an extremely sexual being and all of the above describes your sex life 24/7, then none of this should even concern you.

Disclaimer: Once again, this test is a tool that works best for women with higher sex drives (who really wanna get fucked when they’re fertile). If your 37 year old wife of 15 years fucks you when you want and isn’t cheating, you’re fine. I don’t think test applies to all women (LOL, broke /trp/ rules oops) but it’s useful nonetheless.

Lets presume for a moment that neither a controlled experiment nor an uncontrolled, but documented, correlatively scientific, sociological field study has ever been performed to test the principle of feminine Hypergamy. For a moment, as a man, imagine yourself living in a period of time prior to any formalized school of psychology; pre-turn of the 20th century. There is no Pavlov, there is no Skinner, there is no Freud.

Using only personal observations, observations of learned behaviors related by your father and brothers, male friends and the intergender experiences of a very socially isolated (by today’s standards) group of  people who make up your peers, and a restrictively limited access to any classic philosophical literature beyond the Judeo-Christian Bible – what would you presume would be the nature inimical to women and the feminine?

Would your observations, intuition and the education proffered by your father, brothers and other influential male friends and relations lead to an insight to know what Hypergamy is, how it motivates women and how to control for, or capitalize on it?

Not only do I believe it would, but I would argue that, up until the sexual revolution and the past 60 or so years, men have had an innate and learned understanding of Hypergamy, how it functions, and how to control for it.

To be sure, it didn’t have the formal name of ‘Hypergamy’ – in fact that term was until recently, strictly defined and reserved for “women with the tendency to marry above their socioeconomic level” in polite, pop-psychology circles – but men knew Hypergamy before the manopshere (re)exposed its true definition.

Waging Hypergamy

Resistance to the uncomfortable truths innate to the female experience is to be expected from women – until the advent of Open Hypergamy, the Feminine Imperative needed the sisterhood to be united and its secrets jealously guarded to the point of cognitive dissonance.

My guess is that most of my female critics would still agree with the basic parameters of Hypergamy, but what I doubt they’re aware of is that in denying the inherent biological nature of female Hypergamy women must also reject the sociological, psychological and (observably) behavioral aspects of Hypergamy inherent (and largely subconscious) in women.

Commenter Mookie:

“As women approach the Epiphany Phase (later the Wall) and realize the decay of their SMV (in comparison to younger women), they become progressively more incentivized towards attraction to the qualities a man possesses that will best satisfy the long-term security of the Beta Bucks side of her Hypergamy demands.”

Did your woman say, “you’re (so much) different than the guys I used to date.” Or, “I finally got smart and found a good guy.” If so, this is clear evidence that you are her Beta Bucks guy. Maybe she used to date DJs, NFL players, drug dealers, whatever. If these guys are different types of guys than you, do NOT continue the relationship. She has no clue, but she is rationalizing her choice in her mind. You will pay a severe price later, as in cheating, nonstop bitchiness, or sudden divorce. Find a girl that always dated guys like you. She may have swooned for the lead guitarist, but if she didn’t devote her early 20s to chasing him, you’re okay.

Beta Tells

One of the more common questions I’m asked in consults is whether something a guy did was ‘Beta’ or not. Usually it was a situation wherein the guy was instinctually sensitive to his own behavior in context to his Frame and how the woman he was dealing with perceived him. In most cases a man knows when he’s slipped in his perception of dominance with a woman, they just look for a third party confirmation of it – which is then followed by more rationalizations for why his behavior shouldn’t be considered Beta because they believe women are equally rational, equally forgiving, agents as men (really he is) are.

From Gut Check:

Whenever you feel something isn’t quite right in your gut, what this is is your subconscious awareness alerting you to inconsistencies going on around you. We tend to ignore these signs in the thinking that our rational mind ‘knows better’ and things really aren’t what they seem. It’s not as bad as you’re imagining, and you can even feel shame or guilt with yourself for acknowledging that lack of trust. However, it’s just this internal rationalization that keeps us blind to the obvious that our subconscious is trying to warn us about. Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. So when that predictable behavior changes even marginally, our instinctual perceptions fire off all kinds of warnings. Some of which can actually effect us physically.

It’s at this point most guys make the mistake of acting on the “good communication solves everything” feminized meme and go the full disclosure truth route, which only really leads to more rationalizations and repression of what’s really going on. What they don’t realize is that the MEDIUM is the message; her behavior, her nuances, the incongruousness in her words and demeanor (and how your gut perceives them) is the real message. There is an irregularity in her behavior that your subconscious is alerting you to which your consciousness either cannot or will not recognize.

I began the Alpha Tells post with the intent of recognizing how a woman behaves when she’s in the presence of a Man she perceives to be Alpha. A lot of men get hung up on trying to ‘act’ Alpha; wanting to ape (and hopefully internalize) the behavioral tells a more confident Alpha displays.

Consequently there’s a lot of debate about how men posture and how they naturally display these Alpha cues, but I think the best gauge of what defines those cues is not in men’s displays, but women’s behaviors and attitudes that are prompted by a perception of Alpha-ness.

And just as women will respond viscerally to an Alpha perception, they will also manifest behaviors which indicate her subconscious knows she’s dealing with a Beta aligned male.

It’s easy to pick apart what a guy thinks are his own Alpha tells, but it’s far more uncomfortable to dissect women’s Beta tells when they’re in the presence of men they perceive to be Beta. Much of what I’ll outline that follows will be hard to read for many guys, and as always you’re free to disagree.

My purpose here isn’t to bash Betas, rather it’s to increase awareness of women’s behaviors toward them. As I’ve explained above, try to put these behaviors into a Hypergamous context and how they would be perceived by women who’ve evolved to have an instinctual sensitivity to these Beta behaviors, as well as expressions of Beta attitudes in your words and emotional emphasis.

I could very easily compile a list of behaviors that are simply the reverse of the Alpha Tells I noted in the previous post, but it’s much more important to address the root reasons for these Beta Tells:

  • Does she initiate sex or affection spontaneously?
  • Does she entertain a large pool of “male friend” orbiters with the expectation of you being ‘mature enough’ to accept it?
  • Does she keep a core peer group of ‘girlfriends’ she insists on prioritizing over being with you? Frequent GNOs?
  • Has she explained to you how she was so different  in college and how she’s glad those days are behind her now?
  • Is she experiencing her Epiphany Phase?
  • Does she cite “mismatched libidos” as a reason for her lack of sexual interest in you now that you’re married or living together (even after she’s had better sex with you or a former lover when single)?
  • Is she averse or repulsed by your ejaculate being on her skin, in her mouth or overly concerned with soiling a bed sheet?
  • Will she have sex with you anywhere besides the bed?
  • Do you perform oral on her to get her off more than you have intercourse?
  • Is she a wide-eyed lover or does she squint her eyes closed while having sex? Is sex a chore for her to perform?
  • If you’re married, did she assume your last name, or did she insist on a hyphenated surname for herself?
  • When you’re together does her regular, unpracticed body posture indicate an openness or are you always having to break into her intimate space?
  • Is she preoccupied with her side of the family or a certain pet in preference to being concerned with your well-being?
  • Is she consciously aware of being 1-2 points above your own relative SMV? Is she overt about it?
  • Does she presume authority in your relationship? Do you accede this authority as a matter of (equalist) belief?

There are many more tells of course, and I hope more will be presented in the commentary, but it’s important to understand that these behaviors and attitudes are manifestations of a woman who on some level of consciousness understands that she’s dealing with a Beta man.

I should also mention that, as with Stephen’s case in Moments of Clarity, there are particular phases of a woman’s life when she becomes more attuned to dealing with Beta men due to perceived necessities on her part. A clear understanding of how these phases predispose women to convince themselves to be more accepting of Beta behaviors and a Beta mindset is imperative to avoiding the common pitfalls men encounter with regard to issues of Frame in their relationships.

Beta men are all too eager to believe they’ve matured into being a self-defined Alpha when a semi-attractive 29 year old in the midst of her Epiphany Phase is giving him wide-eyed indicators of interest in him. Only after she’s consolidated on that long-term security does he realize the plans her sexual strategy had for him.

Predisposition for Mate Guarding

One of the best Beta tells is how defensive a guy gets about the subject of mate guarding.

An Alpha has little preoccupation with mate guarding because subconsciously he knows he has sexual options. That applies both within and without monogamy. I’m presenting this here because the majority of what motivates Beta tells (and really a Beta mindset) is rooted in how men deal with a scarcity mentality. Beta tells are almost always indicators that a man believes he needs to guard his paired woman and thus telegraphs a Beta status to that woman as well as other women in her peer clutch.

Mate guarding, and its intrinsic set of subconscious suspicions and behaviors, is an evolved adaptation of ensuring paternity for a Beta-provider. These men must rely upon exchanging resources and external benefits for women’s sexual fidelity. In essence, it’s an unspoken awareness that Beta men must negotiate for what they hope will be a woman’s genuine desire in exchange for his provisioning, parental investment support and emotional involvement.

Beta men are aware on on a limbic level that Hypergamy dictates an Alpha Fucks / Beta Bucks trade-off in women’s sexual strategy – thus a subconscious ‘mate guarding’ mindset evolved from Beta men’s heightened awareness of women’s preference for Alpha Fucks particularly around the proliferative phase time of women’s ovulation.

Paradoxically, the best assurance you have of fidelity with a woman is simply not to allow yourself to become exclusively monogamous with a woman and rather, have her make the efforts to pair with you under her own auspices you being Alpha. Romance is not required from a lover a woman perceives as Alpha, only his sexual interest – this represents a confirmation of Hypergamous optimization for a woman. The fuck-buddy dynamic – all sexual interests with no reciprocal expectation of emotional investment  – is a strong Alpha tell for a man.

The best gauge for determining a woman’s perception of you as either an Alpha or Beta type is examining yourself and your feeling a ‘need’ to mate guard her, to appease her, or an impulse to correct yourself in order to align with her terms for intimacy. A scarcity mentality is the mental point of origin for a Beta mindset – and that internalized mental model will manifest itself in a predisposition for Beta behaviors.

There’s a common belief that even the most Alpha of men will at times slip into a Beta behaviorism. You can’t be ‘on’ your game all of the time, and while that’s true it doesn’t invalidate that women have a mental model of your overall, predominant condition being either Alpha or Beta. A predominantly Alpha frame and mindset (and yes, looks), plus an acknowledged (real or perceived) SMV primacy will cover a multitude of Beta sins, but the predominant Beta has the sisyphean task of convincing a woman he’s more Alpha than she pegs him for.

So to answer the man asking whether or not something he did was Beta, your answer really lies in your motivation for behaving ‘Beta’ as you did in comparison to how a woman perceives your predominant character.

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La Guia de HumanSockPuppet para manejar a tus trolas

Introducción

Buenos días, clase.

En este artículo vas a aprender cómo manejar a tu(s) trola(s), al transformar la relación en un juego en el que ella juega, ganando premios e intimidad al portarse bien, y recibiendo castigo y relegación (o el mismísimo exilio) si falla.

En esta guía también vamos a cubrir:

  • Qué significa gestionar una trola y qué desafíos vas a enfrentar.
  • Por qué la gestión de trolas termina siendo TU responsabilidad.
  • Estrategias para maximizar la felicidad y minimizar el drama en tus relaciones.
  • Como convertir esas estrategias en cambios duraderos en tu estilo de vida.

Empezamos esta guía con un poco de teoría básica, describiendo por qué los hombres son los árbitros de las relaciones. Luego vamos a establecer algunas definiciones comunes y preparar el camino para la sección estratégica.

Mientras lees esta guía, tené en cuenta que esto es un modelo, no un tratado definitivo. Sos libre (y de hecho espero que asi sea) de modificar cualquier parte de esta guía según te sirva. De todas formas los principios definidos aquí deberían ser bastante universales.

Hay una razón por la que decimos AWALT.


Advertencias

1) Para lograr mantener una relación próspera con una chica, TENES que sentirte cómodo al mandonearla – tenes que ser un Patriarca bondadoso.

No es necesario que seas un maestro de tus emociones (todavía). Pero como mínimo deberías estar dispuesto a ser firme con ella, darle ordenes y decirle «no», incluso ante una cascada de lágrimas.

¿Por qué?

Porque las mujeres toman de sus hombres la forma correcta de comportarse.

Recordá, las mujeres son niñas: mentalmente, en su comportamiento, evolutivamente. No son como nosotros. No piensan como nosotros, no tienen ese profundo sentido de responsabilidad personal que tenemos nosotros.

Incluso el tipo mas sociópata del mundo va a saber instintivamente cuando cruzó un límite y ofendió a otro hombre. Que se sienta culpable o no por haberlo hecho es otro tema, pero al menos sabe que hizo algo malo. Evolucionar este instinto fue la clave para la habilidad del hombre para hacer tanto enemigos de forma estratégica como para evitar conflictos innecesarios.

Las mujeres, por el contrario, no evolucionaron tal instinto. Al contrario, las mujeres evolucionaron el instinto de presionar al hombre de forma tal que pueda probar su disposición a enfrentar de cabeza un conflicto (lo que llamamos pruebas de mierda). Un hombre que esta dispuesto a enfrentarse en una discusión con ella, es un hombre que también va a luchar POR ella. De igual manera, un hombre que pierde ante ella, es un hombre que casi con seguridad va a perder ante sus enemigos.

Esta es la razón por la que mandonearla es clave. Evolucionó para probar los limites y buscar peleas con vos. Así que a menos que seas estricto con tu chica, va a terminar volviéndose egoísta e insufrible a medida que la dejas salirse con la suya.

2) Una relación a largo plazo NO PUEDE SER tu objetivo. Solo podes estar ABIERTO a la posibilidad de tener una.

Los hombres son los guardianes de las relaciones. Las mujeres del sexo. Es decir, la mujer decide cuando se tiene sexo. El hombre decide cuando se está en una relación. Y ya que una relación es lo que vos podes ofrecer, no tenes que darla gratuitamente. Tiene que ser una recompensa que ella se gana en pequeñas dosis al inspirarte confianza y devoción.

Entiendo que muchos de ustedes quieren una RLP con una buena chica – a veces una serie de amoríos y encuentros de una noche no es suficiente para completarte. Créeme, simpatizo con ese punto de vista.

Pero conseguir una RLP es SU problema, no el tuyo. Entregarle tu devoción a una chica no la va a hacer mágicamente merecedora de ello. Cuando vos querés una RLP con muchas ganas, terminas poniendo tu foco en la idea de tener una relación en lugar de evaluar a tu chica. Te enfocas en tu relación de fantasía e ignoras selectivamente las cosas que están pasando delante tuyo: sus profundas fallas de carácter, sus indiscreciones y las múltiples advertencias.

Tenes que considerar a las mujeres como candidatas aplicando al trabajo de ser tu novia – una seguidora, una amante, una comodidad lejos de las batallas diarias. No termines contratando a una puta solo porque querés llenar la posición. Asegurate de vetar a tus candidatas con ferocidad y de contratar a la chica correcta para el trabajo.

Esta guía te va a ayudar exactamente a hacer eso.

3) Esta guía va a ser muchísimo menos efectiva si ya estas casado.

Como hombre, tu ÚNICO poder en la relación es el poder de revocar tu atención, validación y tiempo al irte de ahí – a veces para siempre, a veces de la habitación. Es la única estrategia que tenes, pero es muy potente, y lo es por una razón muy específica:

Puede que vos quieras a una mujer, pero las mujeres TE NECESITAN a vos.

El problema con el matrimonio es que te quita tu habilidad de irte por completo. Si, podes divorciarte, pero no sin pegarte un tiro en el pie, con la posibilidad de perder a tus hijos y una porción significativa de tus activos en el proceso.

El clima social actual no es amigable para el casamiento. Si ya estas casado, mis condolencias. Si no estas casado pero planeas hacerlo, sos un estúpido y vos vas a ser el culpable de lo que te pase cuando ese error se vuelva contra vos. Y estoy seguro de que lo va a hacer.


Teoría: El Principio Fundamental del Sexo y las Relaciones

El principio fundamental dice que las mujeres son las guardianas del sexo, y los hombres los guardianes de la relación. Ya deberías estar familiarizado con esto para ahora.

Pasando por la puerta de la Relación (cuidada por el hombre) se encuentra un paraíso en la que toda chica quiere vivir. Es un lugar mágico donde los frascos de mermelada se abren, las arañas son aplastadas, se consiguen viajes en auto gratis, se arregla la casa, se distribuyen mimos, se provee de aliento y se establece firmemente el orden. Y todo eso requiere del tiempo y esfuerzo de un hombre.

Como hombre, tu tiempo y esfuerzo son tu activo mas valioso. Lo usas para lograr hacer las cosas – a menudo cosas relacionadas a Tu Misión. Cuando le das ese tiempo a alguien mas, es un regalo tremendo que debería ser respetado y valorado.

Este es el principio clave detrás de la gestión de trolas. Tenes que exigir que una chica valore y respete tu tiempo.

Algunos hombres no exigen respeto por su tiempo. Son demasiado liberales con quien dejan pasar a través de su Puerta de Relaciones. No tienen patrulla fronteriza, ni aduana. Son como un país lleno de beneficios al que cualquiera puede entrar. Estos son los orbitadores-beta, y son acosados constantemente por cualquier vagina vagabunda y concha mendiga que le pestañee un poco.

Otros hombres son demasiado estrictos en su admisión. Solo dan visas temporales de sexo, y a menudo deportan sin aviso. Estos son los alfas solitarios, y escogieron esa vida de ponerla y luego seguir su vida solos.

VOS, por otro lado, estas abierto a tener una RLP con una trola – SI ES QUE se lo gana.

Gestionar tu vida y tus trolas se resume en premiarla SOLO con el tiempo que ella se ganó, ni un minuto mas.

Podes decidir cuanto de tu tiempo se ganó una mujer al asignarle una «clasificación».

Definiciones: Un resumen de las «Clasificaciones»

Usamos muchos términos para describir una relación con una chica: novia, pareja, garche, plato, amiga con beneficios, etc.

¿Pero que significan realmente estos términos?

Desde la perspectiva del hombre, cada termino implica diferentes grados de inversión en una chica – inversión de tiempo, esfuerzo, emociones y otros preciosos recursos del hombre. Como tal, a las mujeres se las puede clasificar según cuantos recursos invertidos implica cada grado de la clasificación.

Esta es una lista de los grados que vamos a usar (junto con algunas definiciones útiles), ordenadas de menor a mayor:

Nivel 0: Garche / ONS (One Night Stand) / Toco y me voy / Casual. Cojes con esta chica una ves y nunca mas la ves (a menos que ella te busque). Es un único encuentro que es casual, sexual, e impersonal. Puede que la hayas conocido antes o no de este encuentro, y puede que sepas o no su nombre. Pero no es nada mas que una respuesta por única vez a una necesidad física.

No requiere mantenimiento y la inversión de tiempo es muy baja.

Nivel 1: Plato / Amigarche. Con esta chica tenes sexo mas de una vez. Vas a saber su nombre y lo suficiente de su vida como para poder coordinar encuentros sexuales. También vas a saber un poco sobre su personalidad, así podes ayudarla a racionalizar el hecho de ser tu juguete sexual, asumiendo de que se siente cómoda con la idea de ser uno. Si no lo está, igual quiere tener sexo con vos y ambos se sienten satisfechos con el sexo casual. Es una respuesta temporal a una necesidad física.

Necesita algo de mantenimiento y muy poca inversión de tiempo.

Nivel 2: Amiga con derechos. Con esta chica tenes sexo mas de una vez – generalmente tan a menudo como sea conveniente para ambos, pero a veces incluso cuando no es conveniente para ella (porque le gustas lo suficiente como para dejar de hacer algo para verte). Pasas tiempo no sexual con esta chica, como comer, o hacer actividades de interés mutuo. Sabes un poco mas de su vida personal y ella de la tuya, como resultado los dos intercambian cada tanto favores no sexuales. Con seguridad vas a tener buenos recuerdos del tiempo no sexual pasado con esta chica, que va a llevar que te involucres emocionalmente de forma positiva en ella, volviéndola en algo mas que la simple respuesta a una necesidad física.

Requiere un nivel de mantenimiento y de tiempo moderado.

Nivel 3: Media naranja / Pareja / Novia. El mayor nivel de intimidad que una chica puede obtener. Tenes sexo a menudo con esta chica, usualmente as a menudo que con el resto de tus chicas. También pasas una cantidad de tiempo considerable en actividades no sexuales con ella, lo que resulta en un montón de recuerdos en común y una unión emocional mucho mas profunda. En este punto hay una preocupación mutua y significativa por el bienestar del otro. En particular, esta chica va a sentir una gran dependencia para que vos la guíes en su vida (no solo estoicismo y confianza). Vas a sentir fuertemente emociones en este nivel: el afecto es especialmente dulce, y la traición especialmente amarga.

Requiere una cantidad significativa de tiempo y mantenimiento.

Estrategia: Como juega ella el juego

El juego en si es muy simple:

Una chica empieza el juego en el Nivel 0 o Nivel 1, dependiendo del contexto en el que se conocieron.

Si la conoces en un bar, o si empezaron como dos completos desconocidos frotándose mutuamente en una fiesta, es un Nivel 0.

Si se conocieron en un ambiente un poco mas sociable – quizá a través de amigos, o te impresionó con su cortesía después de que le mantuviste abierta la puerta en la cafetería, es un Nivel 1. También puede saltar del Nivel 0 al Nivel 1 si después del primer encuentro sexual te busca y logra mantener suficiente tiempo de contacto con vos (y este termina siendo placentero).

Desde ese momento, una chica tiene que realizarte servicios NO SEXUALES para poder avanzar los niveles.

Los servicios pueden incluir, pero no están limitados a:

  • Cocinarte algo rico. Ya sea en tu casa o invitándote a la de ella.
  • Invitándote a salir a algún lado. Un restaurante o una actividad que te interesa A VOS. Puntos extra si nunca habias hecho esa actividad pero parece divertida – quiere decir que realmente esta pensando en vos.
  • Haciéndote un regalo bien pensado. No cualquier cosa, sino un regalo que demuestra un esfuerzo en entender tu vida y tus intereses (por ejemplo: plantillas terapéuticas para zapatillas si es que te gusta correr, o unos auriculares de buena calidad si amas la música). Es mas importante que haya tenido la idea del regalo correcta que la cantidad de plata que gastó.
  • Hacerte un regalo artesanal a mano. Puede ser una pintura, una foto, un poema, una bufanda tejida a mano, etc. Cuanto mas personalizado el regalo, mejor. Un regalo artesanal no necesita ser extremadamente útil (ya que hacer algo útil es mucho mas difícil), eso si, el regalo debe demostrar paciencia, diligencia y una buena atención al detalle.

Cuanto mas esfuerzo y tiempo invierte ella en este tipo de gestos, mas crédito se gana en la relación. Eventualmente, si demuestra un patrón consistente de invertir esfuerzo en vos, puede avanzar el rango, pero solo un nivel a la vez.

Como dije antes, una chica tiene que invertir tiempo y esfuerzo en vos para lograr obtener tiempo y esfuerzo de vos.

No hay un numero arbitrario de favores que deba cumplir para subir de rango, así que usa tu propia discreción y criterio al decidir como premiarla. Pero siempre observá el quinto mandamiento de Poon.

V. Seguí la regla del número áureo

Devolvele a tu mujer 2/3 de todo lo que te da. Por cada tres llamadas o mensajitos, respondele con dos. Tres declaraciones de amor de ella se ganan dos tuyas. Tres regalos, dos salidas. Demostrale dos veces que la querés y pará ahí hasta que te haya dado tres muestras ella. Cuando hablen, respondele con menos palabras, cuando se emociona, emocionate menos. La idea detrás del número áureo es doble – establece tu mayor valor al hacer que ella te persiga, y demuestra de que te podes contener, evitando dejarte llevar por su dramatismo. Contenerte en corresponderle todo lo que hace por vos en igual cantidad inculca en ella la actitud correcta de creer en tu mayor estatus. Bien profundo en el vientre eso es lo que ella realmente busca.

Darle siempre un poquito menos que lo que ella te da es critico para mantener tu superioridad en su mente. El desequilibrio material de este esquema es equilibrado por su hamster. Como tu esfuerzo parece ser menor al de ella, termina creyendo que vos sos su superior, y que tiene que continuar trabajando para lograr conseguir tu aprobación y compromiso continuo.

Una dosificación lenta de premios correctamente entregados van a mantener feliz a tu chica. Y van a lograr que se esfuerce por lo que sea la duración de su relación juntos. Poniendo dedicación de su parte, la relación puede durar bastante tiempo.

¿Por que los servicios tienen que ser no sexuales?

Simple. Porque una chica no tiene que hacer absolutamente ningún esfuerzo para tener sexo. Si es lo suficientemente atractiva, lo único que necesita hacer para tener sexo es estar ahí. Alguien la va a cojer siempre que ella se ponga a disposición.

Este juego solo recompensa el esfuerzo.

Siempre deberías recordar esto: el sexo es un pre-requisito fundamental para cualquier tipo de interacción no platónica entre un chico y una chica. Nunca vas a encontrarte en una situación en la que una chica te hace regalos y te cocina, pero NO te la estas cogiendo (a menos que los dos sean unos cobardes que no puedan entender las señales). Si no estas teniendo sexo, entonces hay algo tremendamente mal que necesita ser corregido. Eso o dejarla inmediatamente. Lo cual nos lleva a la siguiente sección.

Estrategia: Castigo y Baja de categoría

Hay muchas formas en la que una chica se puede equivocar y molestarte. Quizá use demasiada lavandina al lavar tus camisas, o se le queme la cena que te estaba haciendo. Este tipo de equivocaciones no deberían ser castigados con una baja de categoría porque, a pesar del error, ella está invirtiendo tiempo y esfuerzo en vos. En cambio podes pensar en algún tipo de castigo y pago por la camisa perdida sin llegar al extremo de dejar de considerarla tu novia.

En cambio, las infracciones que si pueden ser para bajarla de categoría deberían ser cosas que insulten tu dignidad, tu autoridad, o el tiempo y esfuerzo que invertiste en ella.

Las ofensas pueden ser tanto intencionales como accidentales.

Las ofensas accidentales suelen venir en la forma de alguna indiscreción de su parte, a medida que lentamente va perdiendo su atracción por vos, su esfuerzo consciente se desvanece, y recae en su estado natural de hipergamia.

Algunos ejemplos de afrentas accidentales son:

  • Coquetear demasiado con otro hombre de forma inconsciente (prueba de mierda, puede ocurrir en cualquiera de los niveles)
  • No cumplir una promesa importante (a menudo por olvido o mala planificación), cuyas consecuencias te cuesten una cantidad importante de dinero o CUALQUIER cantidad de reputación (falta de respeto, este tipo de ofensas suceden del Nivel 2 para arriba, ya que no confiarías este tipo de cosas en chicas de Nivel 0 o Nivel 1)
  • Descuidar alguna tarea importante que vos le hayas asignado (falta de respeto, típicamente sucede en el Nivel 3)
  • Disminuye la frecuencia en el sexo, y distraídamente te evita cuando intentas iniciar el sexo (perdida de atracción, puede ocurrir en cualquier nivel)

Cometer cualquier tipo de ofensa accidental debería resultar en la baja de categoría de la chica en un (1) nivel.

Las ofensas intencionales son mucho mas vulgares que sus contrapartes. Las ofensas intencionales suelen ser pruebas de mierda dirigidas a re-evaluar tu estado. En algunos casos extremos puede suceder incluso en presencia de amigos o familia, volviéndose así en ataques malintencionados contra tu reputación o dignidad.

Algunos ejemplos de ofensas intencionales son:

  • Coquetear conscientemente con otro hombre, tratando de ponerte celoso (prueba de mierda, puede suceder en cualquier nivel)
  • Insultarte abiertamente (prueba de mierda, puede suceder en cualquier nivel)
  • Baja la frecuencia del sexo, y ella te evita vehementemente y conscientemente cuando intentas tener sexo o incluso hablar del tema (perdida de atracción, puede ocurrir en cualquier nivel)

Cometer cualquier tipo de ofensa intencional debería resultar en la baja de dos (2) niveles. Cometer un ataque malintencionado contra tu reputación debería resultar en la perdida de tres (3) niveles.

Lo siguiente es importante, así que prestá atención:

Una vez que la chica baja de categoría, su nivel actual se vuelve convierte en el máximo nivel al que ella puede volver a llegar. Solo puede escalar los niveles en tanto cumpla a la perfección y sus tareas como mujer. Una vez que comete una ofensa seria, y baja de nivel, no puede volver a subir nunca mas.

Algunos ejemplos de transgresiones y castigos apropiados:

  • Un plato (nivel 1) al que le pedís sexo y no te lo da cae de nivel al nivel 0, y es reemplazada por un plato que si te da sexo cuando vos querés.
  • Una amiga con derechos (nivel 2) que pierde tu cámara digital y no te la reemplaza con millones de disculpas, baja un nivel y se convierte por siempre en un plato.
  • Una novia (nivel 3) que se emborracha y te humilla en frente de tus amigos en una fiesta cae tres niveles al nivel 0. Después de algo así desapareces y la dejas a la mierda.

Ya se lo que estas pensando. ¿Volverla un plato para siempre? ¿Dejarla a la mierda? ¿No son castigos demasiado severos?

La verdad es que las ofensas descriptas anteriormente suelen ocurrir solo por dos razones:

  1. Incumpliste tus deberes como hombre Red Pill y su atracción por vos esta disminuyendo.
  2. No es lo suficientemente sensata como para reconocer que su comportamiento es impropio debido a una falla en la educación que le dieron sus padres, algo que ocurrió muchísimo antes de que vos la conocieras.

Si es por la razón 1, entonces vos sos el culpable, y es mucho mejor empezar de cero con una trola nueva que intentar salvar una relación que esta en una espiral descendente. Si es por la razón 2, quiere decir que esta chica nunca valió la pena desde el vamos, y que simplemente no lo sabias hasta ahora. No podes transformar a una puta en un ama de casa, así que ni siquiera te gastes en intentar reformarla.

En general, tenes que ser inflexible cuando castigues a tu chica. Recordá lo que ya definimos: las chicas buscan en vos las pistas para saber qué es lo que es correcto. Si no castigas el mal comportamiento cuando este sucede, la chica va a asumir que te parece perfectamente bien que vuelva a hacer lo que sea que hizo. La hipergamia es egoísta por naturaleza, y no tiene piedad. La mano dura es la única respuesta efectiva.

Hay otro beneficio en ser implacable: dar castigos sin compromiso ayuda a mantener tu mentalidad de abundancia. Un enfoque inflexible te ayuda a evitar el riesgo de desarrollar uniquitis, y previene que seas manipulado por las mujeres, las cuales son muy buenas en aferrarse a tu simpatía para conseguir una/dos/cinco chances mas.

Mantené a tu vida libre de dramas al alejarte de las minas problemáticas. Con tantas chicas solteras ahi afuera buscando desesperadamente un hombre fuerte como vos, no hay ninguna de ellas en particular por la que valga la pena sufrir.

Estrategia: Naturalizando el Proceso

A medida que aprendes el ejercicio de usar premios y castigos para mantener enganchada a tu chica, vas a ir desarrollando una intuición sobre como jugar tu parte en el juego. El proceso se va a volver algo natural para vos. Te vas a aburrir naturalmente por las mujeres que no te demuestran el suficiente aprecio y vas a pasar mas tiempo con aquellas que vuelven tu vida mas placentera.

Este es el objetivo final: volverte un natural. Nunca le vas a decir a tu chica «¡Ahora sos un Plato Nivel 1!» o «Después de esto bajaste un nivel». Este sistema es PARA VOS – es para que puedas armar un modelo abstracto con el cual entender la seducción, hasta que manejar a las mujeres sea algo tan natural para vos como respirar o acabarle en la cara.


Palabras Finales

La traza clave de la mujer moderna es su completa falta de interés en los deseos de su hombre. Nuestro estado cornudo terminó prácticamente reemplazando a los hombres como maridos y proveedores, y así parece que las relaciones tradicionales están básicamente obsoletas – que las mujeres nunca mas van a necesitar preocuparse de NUESTROS deseos.

Nada puede estar mas lejos de la verdad.

Si bien la mujer puede subsistir con los beneficios que le dan nuestros impuestos, el gobierno no le puede dar el amor, la atención, la estabilidad, la seguridad masculina y la intervención directa que son tan cruciales para su bienestar emocional. La mujer se siente vulnerable en un rol de liderazgo, y se siente perdida sin un líder masculino que tome la osada responsabilidad de enfrentar todos los desafíos que a ella la aterrorizan. Ningún gobierno le puede dar esto. Para eso, ella tiene que venir a buscarnos.

Y por ello, debemos demandar un precio.

Mi esperanza es que esta guía te haya ayudado a darte cuenta cuanto poder de negociación tenes en la dinámica sexual – mucho mas del que alguna vez pensabas que tenias. Dejá que esta guía te ayude a capitalizar ese poder – por el bien de tu felicidad, y por la felicidad de cualquier mujer que trabaje lo suficientemente duro por tu tiempo y esfuerzo.

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Cómo la prueba social te consigue chicas

I’m taking a week off from writing a Tactics Tuesdays post to write another post that is, I suspect, long overdue: a post on social proof. It isn’t something we talk much about on here, nor one that I think you want to devote an inordinate amount of your time or attention to.

Yet, it is one that, used properly, can be an absolutely incredibly powerful tool for picking up girls and for changing the minds of the ones you already know.

I’ll go into some example below of just what social proof is, how you can use it, and why you don’t want to miss using this potent and effective tool, both for lifestyle design and for using in your own pick ups on the fly – whether you’ve got friends around or not.

Onward…

 

What is Social Proof?

Imagine you wake up in a foreign town in some exotic locale with no idea where you are or how you got there. Your stomach is rumbling and you feel hungry… but it’s dirty and impoverished here, and you’re not even sure what there is to eat. You walk outside the dingy hotel room you woke up in, and look around. Across the street are two equally-run down-looking restaurants, except that one is full of people, and the other one doesn’t have a soul inside.

Which one do you go try to get a meal at?

This is an extreme example, but it’s an example chosen to highlight one concept: social proof.

Wikipedia defines social proof thus:

“Social proof… is a psychological phenomenon where people assume the actions of others reflect correct behavior for a given situation.”

It goes on to note that this effect is most pronounced in uncertain situations where the correct course is not easy to determine, and therefore is determined by looking at what other people do.

Thus, our restaurant example above. You’re in an unfamiliar situation, with an unfamiliar place, with unknown safety of the food, but you’re hungry and you want to eat. Which place do you eat at? The place with all the people. After all, there’s got to be a good reason they’re all there and nobody’s at the other place, right?

Social proof comes into play in a surprising number of places in our life, including:

  • What products we choose to buy
  • What companies we do business with
  • Where we decide to go to school
  • Where we want to work
  • Whom we want to date
  • How we decide to spend our free time
  • What we think is «cool» and «not cool»

If you’re just out of high school and you surround yourself with a lot of people who think college is for losers, you’re less likely to go (this happens in many poor parts of the U.S. and inner cities, where people going to college are often called «soft» or «sell outs»). Surround yourself with a bunch of people who think college is THE way to a successful and happy life, and you’re more likely to go. Not rocket science, right?

When we have decisions to make that include managing a large amount of uncertainty, particularly with decisions that possibly lead to great investment and have a lot of importance down the road, we often fall back on relying on others to help us feel we’re making the correct and «safe» choice.

How do you know how college will impact your life before you go? How hard will it be? What kind of job will you get? How long will it take to pay off your student loans? What will your friends think of you? Your family? Will you be freer because of it, or less free? There’s a lot of uncertainty, so most of us are influenced by those around us.

If everyone around you tells you college is a waste of time, you know it’s better not to go. If everyone around you tells you college is the path to success, you know it’s better to go.

And just like with going to college, or buying a car, or choosing which toothpaste you want to brush your teeth with, or which guy you want to be friends with, social proof can affect you a great deal when it comes to mate selection – and this is especially true for women.

Remember, women are the choosers when it comes to sex (really… how frequently have you turned random women down for sex?). Even for men who are celebrities – who are, essentially, walking, talking testaments to social proof – it’s not that they are carefully «choosing» women (remember, they’re amounting thousands of women slept with – they’re not choosing anywhere nearly as careful as most women are), it’s that they’re just far advantaged over the average man of getting chosen.

A woman looks at a guy with celebrity and her brain begins saying:

“Oh! I know him… he’s on TV! Which means he’s wealthy and successful. It also means a lot of women want him all over our society. If I could have him, I’d have Grade A genetic material to mix with my own and create powerful, successful offspring, and sons who would spread my genes more effectively with other women.”

And men get upset and look down on women for responding this way to celebrities, or men comfort themselves by saying, «Well, that might be true for OTHER women, but it definitely isn’t true for MY woman!» and women get upset and say, «Sure, OTHER women go crazy for celebrities because they’re SLUTS, but *I* would never do that!»

Yet, celebrities never seem to run into trouble finding women. It must be all those OTHER women… you know, the ones that nobody actually knows.

Fact is, social proof is one of the most powerful determinants – if not THE most powerful determinant – of a woman’s attraction for a man.

Early on, later on, and after decades of marriage.

If you’re like a lot of people this is upsetting to read. Why would women be so subject to the fortunes of social status – to the whims of those around them?

For that, we need to take a look at just how uncertain things are in the mating game for women.

 

Talk is Cheap

social proofOne of the principals I found to be true as I bettered myself at getting girls over the years was that the more I taught myself to rely on nonverbal communication and the less I talked, the more attracted to me women became and the more sexually exciting they found me.

And actually, this makes a lot of sense.

Think about words, for instance. Think of a commercial for a new kind of soda with an announcer who launches into a whole spiel about the qualities of the new soda.

«It’s tasty!» he tells you. «It’s bubbly! It’s better than anything else on the market! Try it today, don’t delay!»

Now imagine another commercial, showing the new soda. A really cool party is going on, with lots of cool-looking guys and beautiful girls dancing up and down having the times of their lives, with that soda in their hands.

At the end of the commercial, you just see the message: «A new kind of cola.»

Which soda do you think people watching those commercials are more likely to pick up a bottle of the next time they see it in the supermarket?

Right – it’s the cool, intriguing newcomer, not the verbose one that sings its own praises.

But why’s this so?

Well, it’s because of social proof. Even for something as simple as a new soda – your brain is thinking, «Man, I really like Coke / Pepsi / A&D. Do I really want to try some new soda instead of going for the one I already love?»

And your emotions are a lot more likely to kick in and say, «Okay, you know what? Let’s try that new soda. It seems cool,» for the one that your brain’s already had some reinforcement that the new soda is the «cool» soda.

This is advertising. It’s why advertising is so powerful.

It’s why now on this site you’ll see a Facebook fans box and a client testimonials slider. It’s why the new home page is focused on building trust. It’s all social proof – so that when somebody hits this site for the first time, it isn’t, «Oh, who are these guys?» but rather, «Okay, it looks like they’ve been around for a while and people like them.»

You can say whatever you want, but people don’t listen.

And that’s because you can’t trust what someone says.

I’ve got the Mastery Pick Up Package for sale on the site now with the book, video, and audio – what I think is a complete set to really get your game in gear and get you results with women. But are you going to be more likely to make that purchase if I tell you how great the program I’m selling is… or if three of your friends come up to and tell you, «Whoa, this stuff is taking my game to another level!»

Right. It’s the latter.

Social proof. IT WORKS. And it’s HUGELY significant. Way more important than anything you can say.

And that’s because mate selection is an inherently uncertain process – how does she know if you’re better or lower quality than that other guy over there? By relying on how other people are reacting to you and treating you, she’s effectively expanding the decision-making beyond herself and tapping into other people’s perceptions and ideas about you to make her choice. If all of them like you, she assumes, you can’t be all bad… and in fact might even be quite good.

But if social proof is so effective, why don’t I talk about it more on here?

 

A Question of Focus

What would you say if I told you, «Want a guaranteed way to be up to your eyeballs in beautiful, lustful women? Become a celebrity

You’d probably roll your eyes and ask me for something more realistic.

But there ARE people who become celebrities… it’s NOT unrealistic advice. If you put the time in, you can probably figure out SOMETHING you can make yourself a celebrity with.

The reason I don’t give that advice on here though, and by extension the reason I don’t give social proof advice, is because I have a personal philosophy of teaching guys mostly things that are adaptable on the fly and can be used anywhere.

And social proof is one of those things you can’t just conjure up out of thin air.

I mean… there are ways to do it. But often it’s more effective to simply target a girl you like who likes you too, meet her, and get out of there with her.

Faster. Simpler. Less risk and random variation.

Yet, if you’re willing to make a concerted effort on social proof, you can make it pay a great deal of dividends.

Ricardus, at one point, built himself a social circle where he was constantly involved in the goings ons of some very popular and well-known people who were constantly in nightclubs, in the VIP section, with constant turnover of new and beautiful women. This wasn’t an easy thing for him to put together, but once he had it, he had a steady, nearly bottomless supply of beautiful, fashionable women who were turning their noses up at most of the male clientele of the club but were very routinely falling into his arms due largely to the social proof he’d constructed for himself.

Not easy to build. But once it’s built, then it’s easy. Sort of like building a business that generates a lot of revenues… often very challenging and time-consuming to put together, and filled with a lot of trial and error, but once it’s built, you can run on autopilot and get far better returns than people slaving away pulling their hair out who haven’t put the time into building something like that.

That’s one of the most powerful ways of building social proof. That’s sculpting a lifestyle for yourself that brings you the things you want (whether that’s money, women, or something else).

But what about for the average guy who doesn’t have that the time, energy, or desire to build a killer social circle like the one Ricardus had? How can he use social proof?

 

Social Proof: The Magic Bullet?

In everything remotely challenging in life, people search constantly for magic bullets.

«How can I get rich quick?» people will ask.

«How can I get that girl I want right now?» other people will say.

«How can I get my promotion this week instead of this year?»

Social proof might well be one of those magic bullets.

I had a realization early into my second year of actively working on learning how to pick up a girl: I realized that there’d been a weird trend I’d seen with a number of the girls I’d picked up the most easily.

  • There was the time I went into a club that had just opened, talked to a beautiful blonde girl who got really excited talking to me, then left saying she hoped she’d see me later, and then I immediately had a tall, stunning Caribbean girl saunter up and park herself next to me on the empty bar – I took her home an hour later or so
  • There was the time I was out teaching a boot camp and met up with three students near the end of the night, and stood there animatedly teaching them and answering questions from them, only to notice a slender tan-skinned beauty standing there looking straight at me. I asked the students to step aside, walked up to her, and 5 minutes later we were sitting on a couch, 20 minutes later we were making out (she asked me if she could kiss me), and a few minutes after that we went back to my friend’s apartment nearby
  • There was the time I wandered in off the dance floor, fresh from dancing (this was back in the days when I still did dance floor game) with some people, a big smile on my face, and ran smack into a girl who seemed like she’d been watching me from afar. I took her home a few hours later
  • There was the time I’d been out at the club with a guy who was a DJ there and was getting us surrounded with club staff and beautiful girls, and I met a beautiful and energetic girl who was very happy to meet me and whom I was in the process of picking up when her male friend interrupted us. I still ended up with her later on and turned her into my girlfriend

… and countless more. And this was only drawing on experience from my first year of picking up. Since then, I’ve had many more examples like this.

You don’t have to have social proof. I’ve picked up girls where they were the first person I talked to in the entire venue.

It just helps, is all.

 

How to Use Social Proof (to Get Girls)

Okay, okay, you’re sold on social proof… it seems like an idea that might have some merit. How in tarnation do you employ it in your own outings, though?

Three ways:

  1. Let girls see you with other girls / friends
  2. Work the room (be a social butterfly)
  3. Build somewhere you’re «known»

Let’s look at each:

Let Girls See You with People

There are, in my estimation, a number of «tiers» of people women can see you with. Here they are, in order of most alluring to least:

  • A group of attractive / young women following or watching you
  • You with multiple attractive / young women doting on you
  • A group of attractive / young mixed or men following or watching you
  • You with a single attractive / young woman doting on you
  • You with a very cool-looking buddy hanging out and having a good time
  • You with friends, having a good time

That last one includes if you’re just another guy hanging out in a rock star’s VIP party. You get some spillover effect from him, but he gets most of the attention.

social proof

If you look over that list, you’ll notice a few important distinctions:

  1. How people are acting towards you is paramount. Women naturally notice the guy getting all the attention. I’ve seen this again and again when out with female friends; they invariably notice the guy that everyone else in the group next to us is treating like the leader, and who is acting like he has «rights» to the hottest girl in the group. «Who’s that guy? He looks interesting,» my female friends will say.

    The funny thing is, this guy is just as likely to be a car mechanic as he is an investment banker or a Hollywood celebrity. In the club, people don’t care what your job is. They just care about who’s clearly on top of his or her social hierarchy. For attraction purposes, in social circles, and when it comes to social proof, it really is better to be the alpha male.

  2. You are rated by the people around you. Think women will be as intrigued by you if you’re hanging out with a pair of 40 year old cougars than they will if you’re hanging out with a pair of 20 year old foxes? Guess again. The same goes for your friends – if you’re spending time with your old frat buddy in his stained t-shirt and beer belly you’re going to get a different vote than if you’re hanging out with a guy in a Gucci suit with a stylish haircut.
  3. Fans are better than friends. This is related to point #1 – if you have fans, you’re clearly at a high level of the social hierarchy, and thus get a lot more points in the mating game. There was a club promoter in London a few years back who made a name for himself in the pick up community by making it his signature method that he’d go out, find 10 or 20 beautiful girls during the day to invite to come with him to the club, and then he’d take them there that night as an entourage and use this to attract other women.

    This also creates a boon to pick up instructors – women see you with men gathered around you, hanging on your every word, and you instantly become a minor celebrity to them. It’s strange – I’ve picked up many of the times I’ve taught guys boot camps, and the girls are often pretty aggressive, but they never ask why I had other men gathered around me – I don’t think it even registers consciously, it seems like an entirely subconscious assessment of mating value, similar to how you don’t realize Coca-Cola’s advertising has worked to make you think Coca-Cola is cool, you just do (in blind taste tests, people clearly prefer Pepsi to Coke; but when you tell people what they’re drinking, they clearly prefer Coke to Pepsi. How’s that for the power of advertising?).

That last point of that last point is a significant one – girls don’t care and usually don’t ask who the other people are you had around you. I don’t think I’ve ever had a girl ask me, «Who was she?» after I’d approached (or been approached by, in the instances where I’d get approached) a girl immediately after I know she’d seen me talking to another girl.

They never ask.

Yet, it greatly influences their perception of you.

How can you engineer this?

Well, in lieu of becoming an outright celebrity (or building an entourage like that club promoter), you can talk to girls near other girls you want to meet.

It’s better to be a sexy man than it is to be an exciting, entertaining one. But you can get other girls really excited about you and have them put on a brief show… then roll in, smooth and sexy, with the girl you wanted to meet nearby.

In fact, I’ve used this one a good number of times.

If you see a girl you’d really like to get to know, but she looks closed off or she’s with a lot of friends, try this: find another girl, nearby, and get into a very excited and animated discussion with her… ideally, she should be a lot more excited than you are. Then, once a few minutes have passed and you’re certain that girl you want to meet has seen, make a graceful exit and go meet that girl you’d like to meet.

Sound complicated? It’s not. All it is is:

  1. See a girl you like but will be hard to meet or closed off
  2. Find another girl closer to her you can say «hi» to and get excited
  3. Roll off that girl after a few minutes and then meet that girl you wanted to meet

It’s not 100%, but the open rates and initial attraction rates you’ll get on this one are a lot higher than you’d get normally without it.

Social proof.

Work the Room (Be a Social Butterfly)

The next path on our list is the path of the social butterfly.

The social butterfly’s path is one that is fraught with peril… namely because it’s too easy to fall into high energy, entertainer mode.

However… if you can walk the balance between being high energy as you work the room, and switching into low energy seducer mode before (not after) you meet girls, you’ll be okay.

Here’s how it works:

  1. You start meeting people right away and building social momentum
  2. The more people you meet, the more people want to meet you because everyone else is
  3. Women start to see you as a really high status guy – «Does he manage this club?»
  4. Women start to want to meet you and get intrigued
  5. Meet women, and things go quickly and easily

Here’s what you need to keep in mind:

  • You must KEEP MOVING until you find a girl you really like. It’s easy for momentum to die if you get stuck talking to someone too long… this is one of the hazards of social butterflying (losing momentum).
  • You must STOP MOVING when you find a girl you really like. It’s also easy to build so much momentum that you can’t stop moving, even when you meet a really charming girl who clearly digs you. This is the other hazard of social butterflying – you’ve got to be able to put on the brakes and get into a real conversation when you find a gal you like. Don’t lose focus.

And that’s it.

If you keep moving, socializing with anyone and everyone, until you meet a girl you like who likes you back and you THROW ON THE BRAKES, you’ll have utilized social proof in the social butterfly path and pulled it off.

And she will, most likely, be thrilled you chose her.

Build Somewhere You’re «Known»

This is, essentially, building equity into your nightlife. To do this, you need to get familiar with both staff and regulars in a place you like.

Be careful selecting your venues – you don’t want to sink a lot of time into a bar or club that’s going to be difficult to get returns out of. What you’re looking for is:

  • A place with high turnover (lots of new women)
  • A place women go to meet new people (as opposed to dance, or hang with friends)
  • A place that has ample places to take women to go sit and connect at
  • Ideally, somewhere with multiple floors so you can change venues in venue

Once you’ve found it, the process is simple:

  • Go there a lot and meet people
  • Go on off days and go early so you can make conversation with non-busy staff
  • Get comfortable with the place and explore every aspect of it

With a little time, you’ll come to know the people there, and you’ll come to know the patterns. You’ll know that the doors open at 9, the first people show up at 10, the place doesn’t start getting busy until 11, everyone starts shifting into hard party mode around 12, and all the women have gone home to escape from the drunks by 1:30.

Once girls are seeing you lounging around and talking with staff and other patrons like a fixture of the place, they’ll come to view you as «connected,» and thus (in that environment, at least… and social proof is all environmental, rather than absolute) higher status and more desirable.

Then all you’ve got to do is go say «hi.»

 

When Should You Use It?

I rarely make social proof a concerted part of my efforts to meet women, simply because it’s time consuming and sometimes difficult to control. I’ll capitalize on it when it brings me opportunities, but I won’t actively seek it out.

However, I am a big believer in building equity into your social life. Most of the men I’ve known who’ve done the best with women have constructed opportunities for themselves to meet a lot of women, constantly, just like what Ricardus did with that circle he integrated with. This was the gist of the post «How to Use Your Job to Meet Women» – build it into your lifestyle and you’ll be amazed how something like meeting beautiful women goes from challenging to easy nearly overnight.

I’ll also use it in a pinch – as mentioned above where I talk about using social proof to «warm up» a girl who otherwise would be difficult to open before I go up to her. I’ll also use it in high target, low receptivity instances – e.g., a massive club or party with lots of women to meet but who are mostly closed off to meeting new people for one reason or another. Then it’s time to go be a butterfly and meet lots of people until you meet a girl you like who likes you back.

Really, this comes down to preference. How do you want to use social proof? How can you build it into your life that it helps you and / or provides repeated dividends?

social proof

Social proof can be a powerful friend and ally in meeting new women – even ones you’d ordinarily have a tough time getting to know. Because it helps women make a decision in your favor in a very uncertain decision-making process, it clears a lot of the «haze» away from figuring out whether you’re of the caliber they want… or not.

It doesn’t need to be a necessary part of your repertoire. But it should be one you know you have available, there to be used when needed.

See you next time.

Chase Amante

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Solipsismo – Parte 2

A comment from Truman gets us started today:

Rollo, it would be great if you could provide some evidence for female solipsism beyond a few examples. From my own experience I could name a few solipsistic women, but I could do the same for men as well, and I’m far from convinced that the trait is universal in women, or even that it’s more prevalent in women than in men.

I will admit that the main reason I split this post into two was because I anticipated this example-seeking. And to their credit my more vocal female commenters didn’t disappoint me with (sometimes over the top) illustrations. If you haven’t had enough of the hamster spinning goodness yet feel free to sift through the comment thread from part one.

However, to begin to work out Truman’s request Voverk from the TRP forum had this example:

One of the most eye opening of the solipsistic world of females was when a plate of mine was giving me directions on where to pick her up. It went something like this:

Her: “When you come to that traffic light, turn over to me.”

Me: “What do you mean?”

Her: “Just turn here towards me.”

Me: “How the hell am I supposed to know which way is that? Left or right?”

Her: “I don’t know. Just turn my way”

She eventually gave directions, but it amazed me how hard it is for a woman to put herself in someone else’s shoes, even if she wants to.

Women’s mental point of origin (solipsism) presumes the entire world outside of her agrees with her imperative and mutually shares the importance and priorities of it.

Just like The Red Pill Lens, it takes a sensitivity to it, but you will begin to notice instances of that solipsism all around you if you pay attention. An equalists, feminine-primary upbringing and acculturation predisposes men to accept the manifestations of this solipsism as ‘normal’, so we blow it off or nod in agreement without really considering it. Most plugged-in Blue Pill men simply view this as a standard operating condition for women to such a degree that this solipsistic nature is pushed to the peripheries of their awareness.

It’s just how women are and women are more than happy to have men accept their solipsism as intrinsic to their nature. It’s excusable in the same sense that women hold a “woman’s prerogative” – she always reserves the right to change her mind. When your default is to accept this social imperative any greater inconsistencies fall into line behind it.

We are conditioned to accept that what best benefits women’s sexual strategy is necessarily what benefits men. On both a social and personal level women’s solipsistic importance presumes, by default, that what best serves themselves automatically best serves men – even when they refuse to acknowledge it. Remember, nothing outside the female existential imperative has any more significance than an individual women will allow it. So, perceptually to women, if a man suits a purpose in her self-primary requirements he must also mutually share in that awareness of his purpose. Thus, she maintains that his imperatives are the same as her own.

Societal Reinforcement

Social reinforcement of women’s solipsistic nature is a self-perpetuating cycle. A feminine-primary social order reflects in itself, and then sustains, female solipsism. For most Red Pill aware men this cycle is apparent in women’s overblown self-entitlements, but there’s far more to it than this.

When men accept and reinforce this socially, we feed and confirm women’s solipsistic natures. When men are steeped in a Blue Pill acceptance of what they believe should be men’s condition, and defend (or ’empower’) women’s solipsistic behaviors or manifestations of it, thats when the cycle of affirmation of this solipsism comes full circle.

Recently I called commenter InsanityBytes to the carpet about her first priority being to defend the Sisterhood when Dalrock published a post critical of a woman’s abortions and another who’d joined Ashley Madison then rationalized it away because she was in a loveless marriage with a man who was in his last days.

This is another instance of solipsism; that a woman’s first directive is to defend her sex’s imperatives even above considerations of religious conviction, marriage vows or espoused personal ideology. That’s the depth and breadth of feminine solipsism, and again, this reinforces a cycle of affirming it in women.

Communication

One of the easiest ways to identify women’s solipsistic nature is manifested in their communication style, and as fate would have it I received a fresh comment from a new female commenter on my interview with Niko Choski. I wont bore you with the histrionics of most of it, but her ending comments serve a purpose here:

I’m not lonely, I enjoy solitude…
I am a whole person who needs no other for my own completion.No man, no woman. The qualities identified by different cultures as male and female…are all mine.
Your obsession with division….iis absurd.

I’ve dug into women’s communication styles on more occasions than I can account on this blog, and with regard to how women defer to their solipsistic nature there is no better way to identify it than in the priorities they give to communicating with men and other women.

From Duplicity:

It’s endlessly entertaining (and predictable) to see how often women’s (and feminized men’s) default response to anything they disagree with in regards to gender dynamics is met with a personalization to the contrary. It’s always the “not-in-my-case” story about how their personal anecdotal, exceptional experience categorically proves a universal opposite. By order of degrees, women have a natural tendency for solipsism – any dynamic is interpreted in terms of how it applies to themselves first, and then the greater whole of humanity.

Men tend to draw upon the larger, rational, more empirical meta-observations whether they agree or not, but a woman will almost universally rely upon her isolated personal experience and cling to it as gospel. If it’s true for her, it’s true for everyone, and experience and data that contradict her self-estimations? Those have no bearing because ‘she’s’ not like that.

This personalization is the first order of any argument proffered by women just coming into an awareness of long standing conversations and discussion in the manosphere. It is so predictable it’s now cliché, and each woman’s first retort invariably responds with personalized anecdotes they think trumps any objective, observable evidence to the contrary.

It might be entertaining for Red Pill men to count the instances of personalization in a woman’s rebuttal comment, but it’s not about how many “I”s or “me”s a woman brings to any counterargument – it’s that her first inclination for a counterargument is to use her personal experience and expect it to be accepted as a valid, universal truth by whomever she is presenting it to.

I’s, Me’s and Myself’s are simply the vehicle and manifestation of women’s first directive – a solipsistic mental point of origin; any challenge to that self-importance is invalidated by her personal self-primacy. This mental origin is so automatic and ingrained to such a limbic degree that consideration of it is never an afterthought for her.

This is common to feminine communication preferences (and men who’ve been conditioned to opt into a feminine-primary communication mode). Women focus primarily on the context of the communication (how it makes them feel while communicating), while men focus primarily on the content (the importance of the information being communicated). This isn’t to exclude men from using personal experiences to help illustrate a point, but the intent comes from a different motive. That motive is an attempt to better understand the content and information of that issue, not an exercise in self-affirmation that feminine solipsism requires to preserve a woman’s ego-investments (usually her solipsistic mental point of origin).

The most visible manifestation of women’s rudimentary solipsism is the priority with which they expect their personal, existential, experience to be considered the most valid, legitimate and universal truth apparent in any debate.

Middle of the Story Syndrome

One thing I’ve been frustrated with by virtually every woman I’ve ever known in my life is their tendency to begin a conversation in the middle of a story; all the while expecting men to understand every nuance and be familiar with minute ‘feely’ detail that made up the backstory that’s never forthcoming.

I swear, every woman I’ve known has done this with me at some time. The presumption is that their story is of such importance that bothering with any pretext, or outlining and describing the events and information that led up to that mid-way vitally important element that made them feel a certain way is all that  should matter to a listener.

Women have an uncanny way of accepting this when they relate stories among themselves; gleaning incidental details of the backstory as the teller goes on.

There’s an ironic feminine-operative social convention that complains that “men aren’t good listeners” or “men don’t listen” to what women are telling them. This convention is really another manifestation of a solipsistic mindset with regard to communication.

It isn’t that men don’t listen, it’s that our communication styles focus on content information, not the contextual ‘feel’ of what’s being communicated by women. Women, above all else, hate to repeat themselves. Not because of the inconvenience, but because men ‘not listening’ and requiring a repetition of that information conflicts with her own self-primary solipsism.

The want for a ‘good listener’ is really the want for a man who affirms her self-priority by not needing to be told something that confirms that priority more than once. And this confirmation should never require explanation or and understanding of the backstory of events that made it feel important to her.

Women have an inherent pretext in communication that always begins with themselves. In fact, most are so sure of their solipsistic, personal truth that glaring objectivity never enters their minds; at least not initially. As I mentioned in the first installment, women are entirely capable of applying reason, rationality and pragmatism as well as men, it’s just that this isn’t their first mental order when confronted with a need for it. Just as a girl can be taught to throw an object as well as it comes naturally to a boy, a reasoned transcendence above her solipsism, one that considers the individuated existences of others’ experiences takes a learned effort.

Ladies First

Luxocrat had a great illustration as well:

I asked my ex that last month, if her kids came first or if I did. She paused and said “I really don’t know. That’s a hard one.” I replied “Then it’s your kids.” I recall my ex-wife reading one of those save your marriage books right after I made it clear I was leaving. She read me a line in it and said she sees how she was wrong. The line went something like this: “If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to understand your husband comes first, even before your children. They must be taught by you, their mother, that he is head of the household and respect must be given. The only way they’ll see that is by your demostrating by your actions that this is so.”

I still left though.

The irony in this instance is that for all of the humble deference this seemingly good advice promotes, it still presumes a woman is already the primary source of authority who ‘allows’ her husband to be “the man”. I’ve heard similar advice espoused by evangelical pastors making Pollyanna attempts at ‘granting headship’ to husbands and fathers from their reluctant wives. The inherent flaw is that these men already begin from a perspective that women are in a position of unquestioned primacy and require their permission to be ‘men’.

In a way they are unwittingly acknowledging women’s solipsism (and perpetuating the cycle) as a default source of authority. That a woman would need to be taught to defer authority to her husband belies two things; first, her solipsistic mental point of origin and second, that her man isn’t a man who inspires that deference.

It’s easy to see how a Beta man wouldn’t be someone that would naturally prompt a woman to go against her natural solipsism, but in Luxocrats position (I presume Alpha since he walked) there is a conflict women have to confront in themselves.

In a social order that reinforces the entitlements presumed by women’s solipsism there develops an internal conflict between the need for an optimized Hypergamy and the ego-investments a woman’s solipsism demands to preserve it. As a woman progresses towards the Wall and a lessened capacity to optimize both sides (AF/BB) of Hypergamy this conflict comes to a head. The necessities of long term provisioning war with the self-importance of solipsism at the risk of her losing out on preserving both (and having a guy like Luxocrat simply walk away from her).

 

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Tipos Buenos (Nice Guys) – Parte 1

Esta entrada es la parte 1 of 2 de la serie Nice Guys

Algo de lo que siempre nos critican en La Red Pill es que somos un grupo de hombres (misóginos, claro) enojados con las mujeres.

Y tienen razón.

Lo que no se percatan es que los hombres llegan enojados a La Red Pill. Es la Blue Pill la que hace enojar a los hombres. Años de alimentar a los hombres con mierda y mentiras solo para luego retarlos e ignorarlos cuando siguen al pie de la letra lo que le dicen, al tiempo que les repiten nuevamente lo que tienen que hacer mientras las mujeres siguen saliendo con los tipos que ellas mismas dicen que no les gustan, logran enojar bastante a cualquiera.

Estos tipos enojados se pueden catalogar en varios sub-grupos, uno de ellos es el Nice Guy / Tipo Bueno.

 


 

Un tema complejo, probablemente si estas acá seas en alguna medida un «Tipo Bueno» (Nice Guy). Si no lo sos, segui leyendo igual, seguro tenes un amigo o conocido que lo es, ayudalo.

Antes de empezar, el mejor libro para leer es «No More Mr. Nice Guy» de Robert Glover (en ingles, lamentablemente).

Robert explica en este libro con mucha claridad, las razones por las que probablemente sientas tanto enojo contra las mujeres. La expectativa que tiene el Tipo Bueno de las mujeres no coincide con la realidad, y terminan lastimados cuando ponen a las mujeres en un pedestal.

Aunque los Tipos Buenos digan que «aman» a las mujeres, la realidad es que la mayoría de ellos sienten odio. Y la razón de esto es porque todos eventualmente odiamos aquello que hacemos nuestro dios. Cuando nuestro dios no nos responde como nosotros queremos (o como nos dicen que nos tiene que responder), los humanos tendemos a reaccionar de dos formas. O aumentamos ciegamente nuestros actos de fe, o liberamos nuestra furia en un acto de ira justificada.

Lo que pasa cuando un Tipo Bueno pone a la mujer en un pedestal e intenta ganar su aprobación, es que tarde o temprano esa adoración se va a convertir en furia cuando ella no cumpla con sus expectativas. Y esa es la razón por la cual es común escuchar a un Tipo Bueno proclamar su amor por una mujer y en un santiamén decirle «puta conchuda» cuando no responde como él quiere a sus avances.

Este es un problema que viene arrastrándose desde hace generaciones en la cultura Occidental, en parte por habernos rendido totalmente al imperativo femenino, en parte porque se perdió la cultura donde el hombre se hacia cargo de la educación de sus hijos cuando entraban en la pubertad. Eso causó que gradualmente las mujeres empiecen a enseñar a los hombres cómo ser hombre. Y si eso no te parece loco, intenta pensar como sería un mundo donde las mujeres aprendan a ser mujeres de los hombres… Ahora invertilo, y este es el mundo en el que vivís.

Esta educación femenina del hombre tiene ciertas consecuencias, una de ellas es la de aceptar el comportamiento femenino como el correcto y el masculino como el incorrecto. Como el hombre y la mujer son diferentes (y sabemos que suelen enfrentarse, especialmente en cuanto a estrategia sexual), el hecho de que una mujer te diga qué esta bien y qué está mal, tiene un sesgo claramente hacia lo femenino. Después de todo si sos mujer no podes más que aceptar el comportamiento femenino como correcto… o rechazar tu propia esencia.

Las mujeres son seres humanos, y como tales tienen los mismos defectos que el resto de la humanidad, son egoístas, narcisistas, priorizan primero su propio bienestar por encima del de los demás.

Cómo Empieza

Suele ser en respuesta a una niñez con problemas, por ejemplo padres/madres agresivos que responden mal a los errores que pueda cometer un niño.

Esto genera que el niño adapte su personalidad alrededor de esos problemas y empiece a hacer cosas como:

  • Dar la impresión de no tener necesidades ni deseos, si el niño no necesita nada, no es una carga, y por lo tanto causa menos problemas. (Obviamente las necesidades existen pero debe suprimirlas, como una especie de auto castigo)
  • Actuar en secreto sobre sus necesidades y deseos, por ejemplo robando o destruyendo evidencias de cosas que había hecho.
  • Tratar de arreglar las cosas, intentando complacer constantemente a los demás. Si al niño lo ven como un beneficio, entonces no puede ser una carga, y por lo tanto causa menos problemas. Esto suele causar muchos problemas internos ya que rara vez puede un niño arreglar todo, y el poner siempre las necesidades de los demás antes que las propias trae consecuencias negativas a la psique.
  • Cualquier tipo de confrontación, enojo o desaprobación causaba problemas, así que retroceder y disculparse antes de que pueda siquiera empezar una discusión es un comportamiento común.
  • Intentar proyectar la imagen del hijo perfecto, conseguir los mejores resultados en el colegio, ser muy correcto y educado, callado, nunca causar problemas, esforzarse en ser un «Buen Chico».

La estrategia

Esto lleva naturalmente a una deformación en la forma en la que el Tipo Bueno percibe que los demás lo evalúan, pensando que ésas son las cosas que hacen querible a una persona. Y termina con actitudes en su adultez tales como:

  • Distanciarse por completo de demostrar interés en el sexo – ser amistoso con una mujer sin demostrar ni un atisbo de sexualidad. Satisfaciendo sus necesidades en secreto, no solo con el sexo. Escondiendo el porno y pretender no tener interés en el mismo. Este comportamiento suele extenderse a otras cosas que le gustan, como las películas o los videojuegos.
  • Volverse un White Knight (Caballero de armadura blanca), hacer lo ridículamente imposible para hacer cosas buenas por la gente o ayudarlos en lo que pueda – usando una cantidad estúpida de tiempo, esfuerzo y dinero en regalos, ayudando a limpiar su casa – predominantemente con chicas, ya que el mayor interés está en lograr que gusten de él, pero también con hombres. No siempre es un tema de «comprarle algo a una persona para que se acueste conmigo», es parte de la forma en la que el Tipo Bueno entiendo como hacer que los demás lo quieran, siempre intentando arreglarlo todo y agradarle constantemente a la gente.
  • Ser el hombre beta supremo, disculpándose todo el tiempo e inmediatamente cada vez que llegaba a una confrontación o desacuerdo, especialmente cuando la otra persona muestra enojo. Evitando todo tipo de confrontación posible.
  • Hacer lo que sea para lograr la aprobación de los demás – gustarle lo mismo que al otro, hacer cosas que el otro aprueba, etc – Como un camaleón, suprimen sus propios intereses y personalidad, intentando mantener una proyección de un ideal de persona que al otro le guste, sea cual sea ese ideal. En resumen, aparecer como la persona perfecta.

Te imaginaras que un tipo así no puede ser de ninguna manera alguien feliz. Constantemente luchando contra si mismo, rebajándose ante los demás. ¿Pensás que no se ve a si mismo como un debilucho? Obviamente que si, internamente su propio ser reniega de si mismo, pero gracias a los años de adoctrinamiento del imperativo femenino presentes en la sociedad, su propio instinto de reproducción no ve otra salida. Para el, dar rienda suelta a su personalidad eliminaría toda posibilidad de reproducirse.

El Tipo Bueno ve que los demás se aprovechan de el y que no lo respetan, lo que no entiende, gracias a su educación, es que la única forma en que los demás lo respeten es respetándose a si mismo.

La estrategia del Tipo Bueno es la de manipular, todo lo que hace tiene una intención oculta, un «contrato» que arman donde la otra parte nunca se entera ni accedió a sus términos. Un ejemplo muy claro es la de tratar muy bien a una mujer, escucharla, ayudarla… esperando siempre que con eso ella sienta atracción sexual por él. El problema es que el Tipo Bueno nunca hace un avance sexual durante todo el proceso previo, y el objetivo de sus afectos puede no darse por enterada (tip: sí se entera, pero como nunca se llega a forzar una definición, pueden jugar con él durante años obteniendo beneficios sin consecuencias). Eventualmente el Tipo Bueno llega a un limite, junta coraje, y se declara, solo para ser rechazado, probablemente de forma indirecta. Y acá es donde sus propias manipulaciones le juegan en contra, no consigue lo que quiere, se da cuenta del tiempo, recursos y dinero invertidos sin haber logrado ningún tipo de beneficio, y explota.

Si bien la estrategia principal del Tipo Bueno es manipular a los demás, para el no es manipulación ya que ésta estrategia es parte de su propio ser. El problema es que una vez que los demás se dan cuenta de que están en una relación con obligaciones impuestas en lugar de deseadas – obligaciones a las que casualmente nunca accedieron – terminan odiándote.

El Tipo bueno no es solo manipulativo con las mujeres, lo es en todas sus relaciones, amigos, trabajo, conocidos, etc.

De qué forma son los Tipos Buenos manipuladores? Le imponen una relación a los demás, haciéndole favores que no pidieron, forzando de esta forma el mecanismo social que tenemos los humanos de ser recíprocos (hasta cierto nivel) a los favores.

Como mejorar

Vamos a ver algunos mecanismos para empezar a desbuenizarte en la Segunda Parte de esta serie.

 

Abuso Doméstico

Leyendo wikipedia (en ingles) se pueden ver varias fuentes que aclaran muchos puntos que siempre se discuten por acá, especialmente siempre que aparecen las #NiUnaMenos con sus mentiras.

El abuso doméstico – definido como el maltrato crónico en el matrimonio, las familias, relaciones de noviazgo o cualquier otro tipo de relación intima – puede incluir comportamiento emocionalmente abusivo. El abuso psicológico no siempre lleva al abuso físico, pero el abuso físico de una de las partes en las relaciones domésticas casi siempre es acompañado y precedido por el abuso psicológico de la otra parte de la relación.

Murphy y O’Leary reportan en un estudio que la agresión psicológica de de una de las partes de la relación es el indicador mas confiable para predecir la posibilidad de que la otra parte en la relación exhiba agresión física.

Un estudio de 2005 por Hamel reporta que «tanto hombres como mujeres abusan física y emocionalmente a sus parejas en igual medida». Un estudio de Basile encontró que la agresión psicológica es de hecho bidireccional en casos donde las parejas tanto heterosexuales como homosexuales fueron a juicio por problemas domésticos.

Un estudio de 2007 de estudiantes Españoles entre 18 y 27 años encontró que la agresión psicológica (medida con la Escala de Conflicto Táctico) es tan generalizada en las relaciones de noviazgo que se puede considerar un elemento normal del estar de novio, y encontró también que las mujeres exhiben agresión psicológica de forma substancialmente mas alta que los hombres. Otros estudios sobre el tema reportaron resultados similares.

Un estudio de Strauss encontró que las mujeres de una relación intima heterosexual utilizaban la agresión psicológica con mucha mas facilidad que los hombres, incluyendo amenazas de golpes o de lanzar objetos. Un estudio de jóvenes adultos por Giordano encontró que las mujeres en una relación intima heterosexual tenian mas posibilidades que los hombres de  amenazar con un cuchillo o un arma a sus parejas.

Numerosos estudios hechos entre 1980 y 1994 reportan que las relaciones lésbicas tienen en promedio mayores tasas de agresión interpersonal (incluyendo agresión psicológica y/o abuso emocional) que las relaciones heterosexuales o entre hombres homosexuales. Así mismo, las mujeres que estuvieron tanto en relaciones con hombres como con mujeres, reportan mayores tasas de abuso de sus parejas femeninas que de sus parejas masculinas.

En 1996, el Centro Nacional de Información en Violencia Familiar y la Salud de Canadá ( National Clearinghouse on Family Violence) reportó que el 39% de las mujeres casadas o concubinas sufrieron abuso emocional de sus parejas/maridos; una encuesta de 1995 de mujeres entre 15 y 36 años reportó 43% de abuso emocional durante la niñez o adolescencia, y que un 39% experimentó abuso emocional en el matrimonio/relación. Este reporte no consideró los niños u hombres que sufren abuso emocional de sus familias o parejas.

Un documental de la radio BBD sobre el abuso domestico, que incluye el maltrato emocional, reportó que un 20% de los hombres y un 30% de las mujeres sufrieron abusos de su cónyuge o pareja.

Conclusión:

  • Prevenir es mejor que curar. Si el sistema de justicia quiere reducir la violencia domestica, debería mirar el cuadro completo.
  • Una cosa es no ser un maricón y llorar por cualquier cosa que te haga una mujer. Una cosa totalmente diferente es ignorar el abuso psicológico. A menudo toma la forma de un pequeño daño hecho durante un largo período de tiempo (por ejemplo que sutil pero constantemente te diga algo de tu sonrisa, o tu peso, nada extremadamente directo).
  • Tomá nota (literalmente). Si podes hacete un diario intimo online. Y cortala cuando veas que vas a terminar en una posición donde termines haciendo abuso físico.
  • Aprende a manejar el odio y enojo interno que te puede hacer perder la calma.
  • NO ENTRES EN PÁNICO.

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Amused Mastery (Maestro Entretenido)

Creo que muchos tipos se cuelgan del termino «distante». La palabra trae la idea de que un hombre debe pretender mirar sobradamente a la chica que le demuestre interés en un patético esfuerzo de hacerla que se esfuerce por él. La gente lee «distante» y suelen pensar «soberbio» o  «fingir desinterés». Tira a la basura ya mismo esa palabra, porque no quiere ser «distante». Lo que querés es AMUSED MASTERY.

Hay una diferencia entre ser una arrogancia «distante» y un AMUSED MASTERY seguro. AMUSED MASTERY es intraducible, pero se puede entender como representar a un sensei que se divierte con los desafíos de sus alumnos. Un poco de arrogancia y sobrades al tratar, pero enseñando y demostrando que siempre estas un paso por delante de tu pupilo (o pupila).

Esto te permite ponerte en una posición de madurez a la vez que te mantenés juguetonamente accesible mientras que al forzarla a aceptar tu control/dominio sobre ella (en realidad sobre todas las mujeres, por asociación) la forzás a ella a calificarse para vos. Esta actitud le dice implícitamente a una mujer que por virtud de la madurez y/o autoridad demostrada, vos «ya estas de vuelta mientras ella esta de ida», ya sabes lo que quieren decir las mujeres cuando dice lo que dice, y eso te resulta divertido. Vas a seguir el jueguito, pero solo en tanto te resulte entretenido molestarla en sus intentos de lograr que vos califiques para ella. Quiere decir que nunca la vas a tomar en serio, como si fuera una hermanita malcriada, pero también con la presencia y mente de un hombre Alfa adulto que ya conoce su juego incluso antes de que lo juegue.

Admito que nunca comprendí por completo el potencial del Amused Mastery hasta que tuve una hija. Me encontré usándolo naturalmente porque así es la relación real que tengo con ella. Cuando era mas chica esta actitud le sumaba a mis credenciales Papi-Alfa, pero ahora que tiene 14 hay una historia de Amused Mastery en la que puede contar. Sin También note que mi mujer también encuentra en la misma actitud una zona de confort, al punto en que ella se autoincluye en mi dominio sobre mi hija.

Amused Mastery es particularmente efectivo cuando lo usa un hombre mas grande para seducir a una chica mas joven. Asumiendo que estas en un estado físico razonablemente bueno y que tenes algún tipo de riqueza, ser mas grande te da un nivel de autenticidad enorme. Para los hombres, con la madurez viene la expectativa de conocimiento y experiencia. Usé Amused Mastery con mis «mozas» en eventos promocionarles y es como droga para ellas. Te les transformas en esa figura paterna (FILF?) que desean pero no parecen obtener de chicos mas jóvenes. Hay cierta dinámica de seguridad Alfa en juego entre una mujer y un Hombre que emite esa vibra de haber tenido suficientes mujeres como para poder predecir todas sus pruebas de mierda, y al mismo tiempo pasarlas con el único esfuerzo de girar los ojos y entregarle la respuesta con una sonrisa socarrona. Cuando un hombre muestra señales de Amused Mastery hay una presunción implícita en las mujeres de que el «entiende» en cuanto a tratar con mujeres.

Dominancia

Otro termino que es muy abusado en el entorno de seducción es la palabra «dominación». Esa palabra conlleva un montón de preconceptos porque lleva la misma connotación negativa que la palabra «poder» tiene asociada. Las mujeres rara vez admiten que quieren un hombre o influencia masculina «dominante» en su vida simplemente porque la palabra parece tan binaria y absoluta. En el ecualismo femenino, si una persona es dominante, eso quiere decir que la otra debe ser necesariamente sumisa. Y después de haber sido alimentadas una dieta constante de «mujer independiente» por casi un siglo, admitir que desean un hombre dominante es admitir su dependencia de él. Siguiendo esa forma de pensar, el dominio es sinónimo de agresión y opresión, y tanto las mujeres como los hombres feminizados tienen una respuesta automática a la mera mención.

Del lado RedPill de las cosas vemos a la verdad sobre la necesidad de dominancia de las mujeres por los hombres. Podemos ver ese deseo evidente de sumisión en su comportamiento y en los significados latentes de sus palabras. Pero creo, que actualmente, tenemos todavía una idea absolutista sobre qué constituye dominancia. La clasificamos como «dominancia social» en el sentido de que indica un estatus Alfa, pero en realidad va mas allá de ello. Pienso que el ideal de la mayoría de los hombres cuando piensan en dominancia es el de tener una mujer particular presente para cuando el de ordenes a sus súbditos sobre los que tiene poder, como algún tipo de prueba social, y que por haber presenciado eso ella va a querer cogerlo con muchas mas ganas.

Después de que el libro 50 Sombras de Grey se volviera un best seller, se transformó en una especie de momento de claridad y «ajá!» aquellos hombres todavía enchufados en la Matrix. Las mujeres realmente se calientan cuando son dominadas, pero esa es una faceta muy estrecha de la dominancia masculina. Es obvio que la popularidad de ese tipo de porno-femenino alcanza para reforzar que las mujeres realmente albergan fantasías de hombres dominantes, pero ¿Es necesario tener un calabozo sexual y un montón de parafernalia sadomasoquista para confirmar tu dominancia masculina?

Dominancia personal, dominancia social, no tiene que ser siempre en extremos. Soy la persona dominante en mi matrimonio y en mi familia, pero eso no quiere decir que la Sra. Tomassi haya aprendido a sentarse, dar la vuelta y hacerse la muertita, ni quiere decir que este deseosa de que incluya esposas y palos en la cama. La dominancia es mas sobre hacer demandas que dar ordenes. La demuestro en mi hablar (incluido mis silencios), la forma en que me visto, el estatus de mi carrera, mi actitud con la gente en diferentes lados del espectro social, mi tolerancia y mi intolerancia, etc. Como hombres, tenemos la tendencia de pensar que mientras mas demostrativos somos, más nos van a notar las mujeres, pero las mujeres son mucho mas sensibles a las sutilezas de nuestras acciones de lo que podríamos imaginar. Un poquitito hace mucho, y lo que pensamos a veces que son gestos innecesarios a menudo son los mas memorables para ellas.

Amused Dominancia (Dominancia Entretenida)

A las mujeres les gusta tanto la dominancia evidente como la cosificación o adoración, es decir, nada. Respondes mas favorablemente cuando es encubierta – a las mujeres les encanta ser cosificadas, dominadas y adoradas, pero solo por hombres que saben hacerlo sin que se den cuenta. Siempre estuve a favor del efecto positivo en mantener una cierta ansiedad contra el peligro de la competencia externa de otras mujeres, pero este tipo de dominancia no puede ser evidente. La dominancia debe suceder tras bambalinas, siendo ocasionalmente amplificadas solo si la situación lo amerita. Ellas necesitan saber que el peligro está ahi, pero sus propias fantasías de dominancia masculina son mas útiles para vos que un recordatorio constantemente presente de ello.

Y así es como volvemos al principio; Amused Mastery es una forma de dominancia social. Esa sensación de saber la respuesta antes de que se haga la pregunta, pero aun así dar la respuesta con una sonrisita es una forma muy efectiva de demostrar mayor valor (DMV). Una actitud de Amused Mastery empieza desde la posición inicial de ser dominante socialmente.

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Antes y Después: Describiendo dos años de transformación después de la Red Pill

Resumen: A continuación van varios ejemplos de la transformación tanto personal como interpersonales luego de dos años de haber internalizado la verdad y de practicar diariamente la sabiduría compartida en la manosfera.

Cuerpo: Tengo 40 y pico, en una relación con una mujer que tiene casi mi edad, para este artículo la vamos a llamar simplemente «Mujer». Tres hijos. Estuvimos divorciados durante algunos años y en algún momento nos reconciliamos. Cuando estaba preparándome para dejarla de nuevo por la falta de sexo y diferentes frustraciones que tenía con la relación, descubrí La Red Pill. De eso dos años ya.
A partir de ahi decidí leer un montón, y mejorarme a mi mismo, levantando pesos, aumentando mi VMS, practicando Dread, identificando y pasando sus pruebas de mierda, definiendo objetivos, siendo un groso, construyendo y manteniendo un Relato confiable.
Y gracias a ustedes y su brillantez, todo en mi vida mejoró de forma dramática y la verdad es que estoy enormemente agradecido por los que me mostraron el camino correcto (en ausencia de un padre que lo supiera).

Acá hay algunos ejemplos de las diferencias en mi vida en el antes y después…

Antes: El sexo con mi Mujer era claramente algo que no existía, la rutina era una vez por mes, a veces, con suerte, dos veces por mes, y a veces nos salteábamos un mes.

Después: Lentamente fue aumentando la frecuencia luego de varios meses de práctica, hasta que tuvimos un avance increíble al entrar en nuevo Relato. Ahora el promedio es 10 a 12 veces por mes, lo que realmente me deja totalmente satisfecho a esta edad.

Antes: Siempre buscaba tener sexo, y por ende me la pasaba frustrado. Estaba todo el tiempo buscando y planeando encontrar una forma de ponerla de humor para coger (je!), siempre viendo como hacer que todo esté bien y perfecto para lograr que ella quisiera tener sexo. Siempre negociando el deseo, y al no conseguirlo me terminaba enculando y enojandome con ella por la forma en la que ella se resistía.

Después: Cuando quiero sexo, agarro a mi Mujer, le doy una nalgada y le demuestro las ganas incontrolables que tengo por ella. Le coloco sus manos en donde las quiero, la posiciono como deseo. Me sintonizo al deseo de hacer lo que deseo / tomar lo que quiero.

Antes: Cuando el raro evento de tener sexo sucedía (esa vez al mes) siempre intentaba hacer que éste fuera increíble y de darle la mayor cantidad de orgasmos que pudiera, con la intención de que así ella quisiera tener mas sexo en el futuro (ja!). Siempre romántico, pensando en sus deseos e intentando complacerla.

Después: Me enfoco en lo que quiero y no me preocupo demasiado en su placer – Me sintonizo a la naturalidad sexual del dominante/sumiso. Le digo que hacer en la cama. Queda muy claro de que Mujer disfruta mucho mas del sexo de esta forma, con una bestia masculina y pasional cautivándola. A veces, en general durante su ventana de ovulación, me indica que necesita más atención, y le doy hasta que me pide que pare.

Antes: Para intentar que se caliente conmigo, me volvía dulce y charlador, entristeciendome cuando ella igual demostraba no estar interesada en sexo.

Después: Cierro la puerta y la trabo (para que no entren los nenes), le sonrío con una mirada de león hambriento, le saco los pantalones que se está intentando poner, la empujo a la cama, la toqueteo, la besuqueo, hago lo que quiero.

Antes: Le mostraba cuán vulnerable era, cuáles eran mis sentimientos, compartía mis problemas y desafíos en el trabajo, compartía mi confusión y exasperación con los temas de los nenes. Intentaba ser un Humano y hacerla que me ame por mi ternura y comunicación genuinas.

Ahora: Soy una roca. Un hombre con una Misión. Defino mis objetivos y perseverando celebro mis logros. Mi Mujer solo escucha de los problemas que resolví, quizá de mis planes para enfrentar desafíos futuros. Soy el Padre, seguro, sabio, disciplinado, estoico. Investigo y busco ayuda de fuentes confiables. Y a pesar de que disfruto conversar sobre nuestros hijos o mi Mujer y escuchar su puntos de vista (gracias a dios es una buena madre), igualmente solo le muestro fortaleza y felicidad en ser un hombre, marido y padre para ella.

Antes: “Perdón.” Solía decir esa palabra todo el tiempo, me defendía y siempre explicaba y justificaba mis sentimientos y todo lo que hacia.

Ahora: Me tomó meses de observar como un halcón, y ahora solo me disculpo cuando juzgo que realmente causé daño a alguien y solamente cuando realmente deseo expresar verdadero perdón. Si no, no tengo nada que explicar y termino usando el Maestro Entretenido o disfrutar de el misterioso Silencio. Me controlo constantemente para evitar justificar o racionalizar mis actos – o sea que elijo las acciones y palabras deliberadamente para aguantar cuando la Mujer y otras personas me tiran pruebas de mierda. (Tuve que controlar fuertemente mis pensamientos y palabras para poder romper los viejos hábitos. Cada vez que escucho que la palabra ‘perdón’ sale de mis labios, me detengo a analizar si realmente merecía ser dicha. A menudo no correspondía y así voy aprendiendo a limitarme y mejorar mi respuesta a futuro)

[Nota: no se puede subestimar la importancia que tienen las palabras que usamos tanto en nuestros propios pensamientos como en lo que decimos. Como ejemplo, en lugar de «perdón» podría decir «que mal…» «hmmm…» «que lástima que…[describí lo que pasó]» «ups! (quedándote en silencio y mirándola con cara de que sabes que estuviste mal)

Antes: Tomando en serio su estado de ánimo, intentando mejorarselo si era malo y tratando de que se mantenga si era bueno.

Ahora: Mi foco es mi misión y yo. Su estado de ánimo son como el estado del tiempo. No solo no me interesa su estado de animo, sino que acepto activamente el subibaja emocional que puede tener si tenemos algún tipo de conflicto. Simplemente me mantengo fiel a mi mismo y que lo que creo es lo correcto (lo que puede cambiar si ella puede demostrarme un punto de vista válido), y se que en esos momentos gracias a esa tensión se está recargando la pasión de nuestra relación. Sonrío sabiendo de que vamos a tener re buen sexo mas tarde, en lugar de sentirme ansioso y frustrado pensando que el hecho de que ella se haya alterado significa que por eso no voy a coger.

Ahora: Me enojaba por la falta de balance en nuestro deseo sexual. Deseaba que ella iniciara el sexo alguna vez, o por lo menos que me de alguna señal de que le interesaba tener sexo conmigo. Me frustraba mucho el hecho de que no eran así las cosas cuando recién empezábamos a salir.

Ahora: Acepto el rol del hombre y tomo la iniciativa cada vez que me parece, esperando siempre que se someta a esa decisión. Ahora entiendo que la tensión/excitación sexual mejora cuando yo soy dominante y ella sumisa.

[Nota: Mi programación Blue Pill femino-centrica me dictaba de que tenia que verla a mi Mujer como un ser perfectamente igual a mi, cómo yo en todo sentido excepto en los genitales. Siguiendo la regla de «Oro» de la Blue Pill, me la pasaba juzgando todas mis acciones hacia ella bajo la mirada de cómo quería yo que me trataran. Me dedicaba a hacer lo que era «correcto» y, Dios me libre, nunca intentaba dominarla. Es impresionante cuanto mejoro nuestra vida sexual durante mi transformación de Blue Pill a Red Pill, cuan liberador fue todo el proceso. Y está claro de que ella ama sentirse sumisa cuando siente que es un hombre real el que tiene al lado haciendo lo que él quiere – se la pasa diciéndome que nunca estuvo tan contenta.]

Antes: Estaba siempre estresado por la plata y tratando de que ella gaste menos. Esperaba una pareja que fuera mi igual y me enojaba tremendamente con nuestros problemas financieros. Terminé yendo muchas veces contra mis instintos al intentar agradarle o al negociar con ella.

Ahora: Separe nuestras cuentas y tome control de mis ingresos. Tuve un buen aumento en el 2015 y ademas tengo ganancias por trabajos que hago por mi cuenta. Pude aceptar que soy 100% responsable por mi situación financiera, y ya no le permito gastar de más. No me interesa su respuesta emocional a mis decisiones financieras y por ende su comportamiento cambio para adaptarse a las nuevas condiciones.

Antes: Me tomaba en serio cualquier pelotudez que me decía, a menudo crítico o pensativo, intentando siempre ayudarla. Siempre deseando que ella fuera diferente.

Ahora: No discuto mucho, no tiene sentido. Me divierte escucharla y verla como funciona. AWALT. Soy juguetón o estoico según corresponda y ella es mucho mas feliz con un hombre fuerte que la escucha sin inmutarse emocionalmente por lo que diga. Desde mi perspectiva, la vida es corta y misteriosa y ahora gracias a que entiendo su naturaleza y ya no tengo intenciones de que ella sea algo que no es, la encuentro fascinante y entretenida.

Antes: Preguntaba «si está bien» que yo hiciera algo a la noche o con amigos, intentando siempre que no se enoje, agradeciéndole si podía ir, pidiendo disculpas por la molestia. Nunca se me ocurría mencionar a otras mujeres/chicas.

Ahora: Le informo cuando planeo salir y doy la menor cantidad de detalles posibles. Demuestro entusiasmo en la salir y hacer cosas con otras personas, sin demostrar nada de preocupación en si eso puede o no afectarla. El gimnasio y el fútbol son mi prioridad. Le cuento historias de otras mujeres en mi vida, incrementando mi VMS y el dread (el alma y vida de una RLP).

Antes: La preguntaba siempre como podía ayudarla en la cocina o con algunas tareas del hogar. Le mostraba cuan servicial podía ser, negociando de esa manera un contrato encubierto de tareas hogareñas a cambio de sexo.

Ahora: Veo lo que hay que hacer y lo hago – saco la basura, ayudo en la cocina, etc. y después de una nalgada sigo con mis cosas. Estoy cuando ella me necesita, soy su roca, no su amiga.

Antes: «Te amo» todo el tiempo. Me volvía loco si ella no lo decía tan seguido como yo o cuando pensaba que debería haberlo dicho. Pensaba realmente que ella quería escuchar mi amor eterno. En resumen, negociaba la atracción.

Ahora: Regla inquebrantable: Nunca decirlo primero. Con demostraciones físicas le demuestro una intimidad apasionada y de dominación de su ser. Ahora escucho seguido esas palabras dichas en el intenso tono que desee tanto en mi vida previa. Le devuelvo una sonrisa cómplice junto con las palabras. [Nota: respondo ‘te amo’ en lugar de ‘yo también te amo’ porque elimina cualquier implicación de que podría llegar a estar diciéndolas como una respuesta educada. Mi relato es mirarla a los ojos y decirlo con intensidad y sentimiento, respondiendo a esa necesidad de seguridad con una proyección de mi esencia masculina de fuerza y protección. Y a veces no digo nada, solo la agarro y la acerco a mi, o si siento que me lo dijo sin demasiado sentimiento detrás, la burlo un poco.]

Antes: Creía en el alma gemela, esa fantasía de película donde «me ama por quien soy» existe. Pensaba que mi Mujer tenia sentimientos románticos similares, valoraba la lealtad, el sacrificio, la integridad y el honor.

Ahora: Sabiendo que mi VMS (percibido) debe estar y mantenerse por encima del de ella, de que si se va lo hace sin arrepentirse. Acepto mi soledad, sabiendo de que solo me puede amar por cómo la hago sentir en este mismo momento. Agridulce y poético, para mi Mujer solo existe el ahora, su satisfacción basada en su propia percepción del estatus y relato de su hombre a cada momento. A pesar de que la mayoría de las cosas son geniales después de mi Transformación (de Blue a Red), nunca pierdo de vista que AWALT, y soy consciente de que todo esta funcionando bien solamente porque estoy trabajando en que así sea a cada momento.

Antes: Temía perderla, o mandarme una cagada y que todo se cayera a pedazos. Temía que encontrara a otro tipo, de no poder mantener a mi familia unida. Quería trabajar junto al mamá de mis hijos y no enfrentarla en discusiones sobre cómo ser padres. Uniquitis.

Ahora: Andá a cagar, soy groso y me estoy volviendo cada vez mas increíble. Se que hay muchas mujeres, mas jóvenes, mas atractivas que ella, mojándose con el solo pensar en tener a un hombre como yo (Dominante, Seguro, armado con la Verdad). Mentalidad de Abundancia – Estoy contento con tenerla cerca siempre que se comporte y sea sumisa, encantadora, respetuosa. Bromeo con ella sobre otras mujeres, aumentando el Dread. La desafío y la motivo a que sea la mejor madre que puede ser, en lugar de pensar de que como madre siempre tiene la razón.

Está claro: Vivir bajo los verdaderos principios de la dinámica de los sexos da los mejores resultados tanto al hombre como a la mujer y a sus hijos. El camino del hombre que acepta la Red Pill, enfocado en su misión, disciplinado, solo puede terminar en una relación saludable y satisfactoria. Por supuesto, siempre AWALT, y además la buena elección de una pareja correcta es crítica y difícil. La verdad es que me siento muy afortunado en ese aspecto.

Lecciones aprendidas:

  1. Lee toda la guía definitiva de la Red Pill. Estudiá, practicá, volvé a la teoría para afianzar conocimientos si querés tener alguna posibilidad.
  2. Levantar pesas es esencial para lograr el estado mental correcto.
  3. AWALT. Para poder lograr todo esto tuve que volverme un hombre masculino, mantener mi relato, y estar dispuesto dejar todo atras.
  4. Los 5 estadíos son reales y cada uno de ellos es valioso a su manera.
  5. Poner a RP en acción produce los mejores resultados tanto para hombres, mujeres y niños.

Nota del Traductor: Cuando se implica que la mujer es sumisa en el contexto de la Red Pill, no se habla de sumisa con la dinámica de maestro/esclavo sino en la dinámica de Sargento y soldado. Cuando un Sargento da una orden el Soldado la cumple, no desafía constantemente la cadena de mandos.

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