Sparing you the drawn-out details of what KINO is, I’ll just make it concise as possible.
KINO is the act or the art of physical contact or touching.
How it applies and pertains to your face-to-face interactions with a girl, be it on a date or at your place, is that you want to establish touch as early as possible.
The sooner and more frequently you touch her; the more she becomes accustomed to your touch.
Whether she will like your touch or get repulsed by it is another story. And that’s what this article is all about- teaching you the right way to KINO (touching) with zero or least chance of rejection.
Now, whenever you touch a girl or attempt to [primarily a new girl who isn’t used to you yet], the best time to do this is with a fabricated excuse to touch her.
Having a plausible reason to touch her will allay her fears. Not that you always need a plausible reason, but if you’re new to this, it’s best to use this guideline.
Lemme take you back to my latest pull from the other night where I’d picked up a 23 year old hottie.
I’ll only cite the KINO (touching) and how I touched her and when I touched her [proper calibration].
Alright, the dreaded-boyfriend topic came up, she revealed that he’d cheated on her twice in the past.
This is an opportune time for me to go KINO with a fabricated-plausible reason. So what did I do/say?
Me: “To be honest, that’s pretty fucked up and I feel sad for you. I can see a tear falling from your eye. You sure you don’t need a tissue ’cause I have 1 for you”😆.
As she laughed, I got up, dug into my back pocket and took out a piece of napkin and wiped her face with it in an exaggerated manner as if she was really crying.
We both laughed out loud about it.
That was a perfect example of KINO with a plausible reason to touch.
It was also my first touch on the insta-date and it was obviously successful as the girl felt that it was natural, called-for and harmless.
Accidental KINO is touching the girl by accident…or by what appears to be an accident😈.
This can also be fabricated and should be orchestrated by you (the guy).
A great example of Accidental KINO:
Let’s say you’re sitting @ the bar counter with a girl (or date) and there’s something across the counter (in her direction) which entails you having to lean her way to get it.
Instead of asking her to pass it, or trying your darn best to finesse it in order to not touch while you reach across her, purposely make physical contact with her!
This will fly under her radar simply because it’s accidental, harmless and very common.
Now in my case from the other night, we sat across from each other (face to face) on a bench, so our knees were virtually touching. Every now and then [5-10 minutes], I would purposely brush my knees against hers. Once again, this will come across as accidental although it wasn’t on my part.
We sat on a bench exactly like this
No big deal.
No objections. It was an accident😈.
Ok, another orchestrated moment of accidental KINO between us.
While both of us were gazing into the skies, as part of my seduction routine, I told her let’s play a little game of who can draw an animal shape in the sky with the star formations.
The purpose of me running this routine is to get closer to her covertly😈.
We took turns and I made out a camel in the sky. Total bullshit by the way😆.
She draws a dog-man or some shit like that.
I pretended as though I couldn’t make out the figure in the sky just so she can get closer to me to show me what she sees.
Me: “Where is it!? You sure!? That doesn’t look like a dog”
HB: “The cloud is covering the legs. Look to the left”.
At that point, my face was virtually pressed against hers.
This is appropriate in that the moment called for it.
It was also accidental…so it seemed😈.
She never recoiled nor appeared weirded out.
Now, this’ where the real stuff happens and finesse and calibration are prerequisites.
You can’t spend the entire date or time with the girl relying strictly on accidental and situational KINO.
There comes a point where you have to go direct and phase shift into intentional/overt KINO (direct touching).
The feel-out process is over!
As we gazed into the stars, I mentioned something about a romantic setting, told her that her hair smells nice then I touched it. I stroked her locks for about 10 seconds as we both continue to gaze.
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Warning: An Overt KINO move/touch should only be done BRIEFLY! Between 1-5 seconds!
Had I kept stroking her hair for an extended duration (over 10 seconds), it would’ve gotten awkward, she would’ve pulled away or motion for me to stop thus dampening the vibe a lot.
Keep it brief!
Ten minutes after the hair touching, I feigned being a bit chilly:
Me: “Damn I’m cold. Feel my hand, isn’t it cold”!?
She then feels my arm, essentially reciprocation of touching.
You want her to participate also.
That was the purpose of me pretending as though I was cold and getting her to feel my arm to gauge my superficial temperature.
Now that she’d touched me, I now have psychological justification to touch her (arm) in return. So I touched her arm to see if her skin was also cold.
That’s a great way to get her to touch you.
As I cited above; make it brief! Touch and let go. The longer you allow your touch linger, the more awkward it gets.
Extended touching comes later.
Now, what is taking place here is slow acclimation to each other’s touch, feel, hands, body, skin, etc.
It’s a crawl before you walk principle.
It doesn’t apply to ever situation, but it should within a date setting.
Rapid KINO escalation is NOT for newbies and guys who aren’t advanced in seduction.
A mechanical approach to escalation (as I’m breaking down) is advisable for starters until your Game gets to the level where you’re then able to see through the matrix and read certain non-verbal signals emitting from the girl.
Ok, so the date and I had become acclimated to touching and being touched.
No objections yet.
By the way, token resistance/objections should be expected.
It just so happened that this girl never threw any resistance my way. This is rare but does occur.
Ok, after gazing away @ the stars, the topic of planets came up. I said there were 9 planets: she claimed 10.
We debated and decided to google it. Remind you, the entire time, she’s sitting on 1 side of the bench while I’m on the opposite side facing her. Therefore, I wasn’t able to get a good view of her phone while she googled the planets. So what did I do?
I got up and sat right behind her:
Sort of like this but my legs were on both sides of her
Me: “I can’t see. No cheating please”.
HB: “How you gonna cheat by googling something”?
At this point, the KINO was heavy in that my cock was pressed up against her backside.
Did she get all weirded out?
Although I didn’t need a plausible reason at this point to touch her, the fact alone that I wasn’t able to see her phone’s screen that well, gave us all the reason for me to be closer to her and right up behind her. So it felt natural and plausible which induced zero resistance.
The KINO escalation was in overdrive as I began caressing her bare shoulders and her neck while we both looked at her phone.
A key thing to note here is that when you’re touching her; never acknowledge (verbally) what you’re doing.
Don’t say to her, “Your skin feel so soft”.
There’s a 75% chance that her ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) will get activated just from your statement of acknowledging what you’re doing.
The result will be she pulling away (however playfully), telling you to stop or any other form of resistance.
Therefore, never call attention (verbally) to what you’re doing.
If you’re rubbing her ass, don’t say: “Your butt feels nice”. Just do what you’re doing and talk about anything else.
Remember to be talking as you’re doing heavy KINO.
Silence will cause her to think.
Talking will distract her from thinking of the moment and what is happening.
Thinking is what you don’t want her to be doing at this point in the game.
Tell her to talk about her childhood days in school or something if you have to.
Anyway, so while I was rubbing her bare shoulders (for a few minutes), guess what we were talking about?
Muthafucking Saturn’s rings🙂😯 .
After seeing how receptive she was to such heavy KINO, it was time to double down and get sexual.
I kissed her on her neck once.
Took her hand, led her to the pier’s edge while straddling her around the waist from behind.
Ass and hips grabbing ensued, which is an overt class of KINO.
As we walked, I held her hand and fingers.
This sounds cheesy to some guys, but this form of PDA (Public Display of Affection) isn’t done to look romantic but to gauge how receptive she is to being touched and held.
I’ll talk about this more in another post [finger holding].
Now, as I mentioned in my previous article, the girl and I had kissed a combination of 7 times: she kissed me 3 times, I kissed her 4.
Common Questions Pertaining To KINO (Touching)
FAQ [Frequently Asked Questions]:
➜ “Kenny, do I need to do all this monotonous touch escalation? Why can’t I just skip all this slow stuff and just grab her ass right off the bat or make out with her right away”?
As I said eluded to earlier, if it’s a girl whom you’re chatting up during night game and you’re short on time (she has to go), you can escalate rapidly.
If it’s a girl whom you’re chatting up at the club; you can rapidly escalate.
Whenever your time is limited with a specific girl, you should always try to escalate faster.
However, if it’s a girl whom you’re on a so-called date with where you’re guaranteed at least an hour of time spent, you have no true need to escalate rapidly…unless you’re advanced at seduction and reading a girl’s body language.
➜ “Ok Kenny, so what is the point of KINO and touching anyway? Why can’t I just NOT touch her at all…or touch her later on during the date or whatever”?
Not touching her right away in the right ways (right steps), and if you do decided to get physical with her as the date whines down, 2 things will happen:
1.) You would’ve been too late which means less time to get physical.
2.) She will feel weirded out and often times violated.
You gave her ZERO clues that you were the touchy guy, and all of a sudden as if you got possessed by something- you decide to grab at her.
She will object in some form.
This will have been too sudden and unexpected.
➜ “What do I do if she objects to or rejects my attempt at touching and getting physical/sexual”?
Stay composed and try to be none reactive as possible.
If you try to hold her hand and she pulls away, you can either:
1.) Playfully hit her, “You are so fresh”!
2.) Continue talking, ignoring what just happened. After some time has elapsed, try again when you think you’ve done a bit more at warming her up to the idea.
➜ “I tried kissing her but she pulled away or said no”.
Once again, if you want to kiss a girl with the least possibility of rejection, you have to gradually initiate touching as I’d done on my recent insta-date.
Surly I could’ve kissed her from the inception, but her vibe didn’t permit for such rapid and spontaneous escalation.
So whenever you try kissing a guy who isn’t receptive as yet to it; it will backfire.
Touching and getting physical right away eliminates all of this. So when you do decide to kiss her or embrace her, she won’t be caught totally off guard (physically and psychologically).
Whenever a girl rejects your attempts to get physical with her, 9-10 times, it comes down to mis-calibration (bad timing) and a failure to read her body language correctly.
It also comes down to a failure in warming her up to the idea of being touched or kissed, etc.
➜ “Kenny, how did you learn to become so adroit and good at KINO and touching women”?
Vin Dicarlo aka Woodhaven, PUA and Seduction guru
The greatest article I ever read on KINO and touching women was The DEL, Dicarlo’s Escalation Ladder.
It absolutely transformed my dating and sex life!
I read that post many years ago when I was still scared shit at the mere thought of touching women.
With the discovery of the DEL Escalation Ladder method of KINO Escalation, my game shot up 500%!
I slept with way more women from One-Night Stand pulls to girls whom I knew prior but was afraid to escalate on.
Practically everything I’d laid out in this article was straight out of the DEL [what I’d remembered] by the Pickup guru Vin Dicarlo.
His KINO method consists of touching but in a gradual manner: from light to heavy touching.
You guys who had read this article, please, and I mean fucking please, do NOT let in be in vain or just a form of entertainment to pass some time on a boring day.
Don’t be keyboard jockeys as we’d say in the pickup community.
Use the RLA principle: Read, Learn and Apply!
Had I been a keyboard jockey who read for the sake of reading or just to pass time, knowing I needed help with women, I would’ve never gotten my shit together!
When I first read Vin Dicarlo’s Escalation Ladder article, I instantly went out and put it to use the same night.
I failed miserably of course as would be expected, but gradually mastered it as I kept applying over the months upwards of a year.
Guys who are successful in life don’t (just) read! They act! So please re-read this article and take notes if you’re trying to take your game to the next level just as I did years ago.